Mrlonelyone Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Social acceptability bias will keep me from finding someone for a very long time if my current prospect dosen't work out. I went on Adult friend finder just to see what was there. It conformed to what I was already pretty sure of from real life. Tons of people men, women, couples....all willing to be with someone like me, a transgender woman, within 5 miles of my house. When I go on POF, or OKC or even a transgender specific dating website I get nothing nearby at all. I mean, a search radius of at least 50 miles to get anyone who's genuinely interested. Maybe I should just stop fighting it and realize that the toll for being myself is the cost of ever having a relationship.
Balzac Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Dude/Dudette, you live in conservative Midwest. MOVE to a different hunting ground.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 Dude/Dudette, you live in conservative Midwest. MOVE to a different hunting ground. I probably will be doing that in say 6 months just to find a real career position. I hope your right. I can't belive that say NY or CA are that much more liberal than Chicagoland. Even people who are live and let live about things are leery about actually having someone like me in their lives.
mammasita Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Do you have any LGBT friendly bars/clubs near you? I know its not the ideal place to meet a partner, but could be a great place to start?
carhill Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 OP, I know for certain that the Bay Area (San Francisco) is very liberal regarding gay/lesbian/transgender issues and lifestyles. Even where I live, while generally conservative, has a vibrant gay/lesbian community which includes transgenders as well. The social experience I spoke of with a transgender in our singles club was a result of that community interacting with the wider community socially. You run into a similar problem as myself, but for different reasons. For you, it's transgender preference/proclivities; for me, it's lack of single women period. That's why I'm actively working on a plan to move to an area which better matches up with my personal and business desires. 53 in one spot is enough. Good luck.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 OP, I know for certain that the Bay Area (San Francisco) is very liberal regarding gay/lesbian/transgender issues and lifestyles. Even where I live, while generally conservative, has a vibrant gay/lesbian community which includes transgenders as well. The social experience I spoke of with a transgender in our singles club was a result of that community interacting with the wider community socially. You run into a similar problem as myself, but for different reasons. For you, it's transgender preference/proclivities; for me, it's lack of single women period. That's why I'm actively working on a plan to move to an area which better matches up with my personal and business desires. 53 in one spot is enough. Good luck. I really hope you are right. However IME Chicagoland is accepting of my lifestyle too. It is one thing to not want people to be discriminated against, and another to want to be so intimately associated with one.
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