StandOut Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 (edited) So this girl I've been talking to for a few agreed to go for food and drinks then later on she tells me she doesn't feel good and can't go. Later on that night I find out from a friend that she actually went out. This really pissed me of, i mean she is not my girl but thats even a bigger reason i think she shouldnt have lied. Do I drop a hint next time she contacts me to let her know that I know? Leave it alone? Or stop talking to her all together? Edited November 29, 2012 by StandOut Typo
Balzac Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Scorched earth in my world. As in most things a case can be made for trying again but I say NEXT. 1
KatZee Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Just leave her alone. Be glad you found out because now you know she's not interested and you don't have to waste any more time. Just don't contact her again. 3
dasein Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 She will rationalize blame onto you somehow and try to paint you the bad guy, making you more annoyed. Just let it drop and move on. You came out ahead by screening a liar before wasting any time.
carhill Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 OP, additionally, standardize a process for this stuff to take the emotion out of it. My process is, if a lady cancels but does not proactively reschedule, she is erased permanently and without prejudice. Back to the billions she goes. Decide on your process and implement it unwaveringly. 3
Chi townD Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 She valued going out with others than spending and evening with you. That should speak volumes to you. If she was honest and said, "I'm sorry, but I had forgot I already made plans for that night. But, I still want to go out with you. Can we reschedule for tomorrow night?" You might not have been happy, but at least you could appreicate her honesty. You might want to cut this one loose.
Ami1uwant Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Its a trust isue....I dont trust her anymore. I dont have have an issue if she told me "hey I need to cancel because I forget its my friends birthday today( or my best friend just broke up with her bf)...can you want to get togather on Saturday instead?" The big key here is if she cancels , she offers an alternative date. Move on from her....
MrCastle Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 As someone mentioned, bringing it up will make it worse. Some people are just very inconsiderate. I had a girl flake on me last week, it wasn't a date, but my bday party, a party which I had made reservations for a specific number of people, a party which she confirmed she would be going. Then never showed up, I tried calling her, texting her, no response. The next day I was pretty heated at her lack of communication and said "you know, a text or phone call would be nice". She explained why she didn't show, but never actually apologized for how she handled it or for ****ing up my reservation. It was a good thing because I now know what kind of person she is and although I have to see her in class for a few more weeks, communication is as limited as it can be at this point. Some people are immature, selfish, inconsiderate, etc. In her ****ed up mentality she didn't do anything wrong; hence the reason she has not contacted you or apologized. If you bring it up, again; in her ****ed up head, you'll be the one in the wrong. Just cut contact with her. 1
er1n Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 She isnt into you enough/that interested you. I had a guy who was trying to get me out with him a few times and I just wasn't into him so everything else going on in my life was more exciting to me I guess, so I didn't really care or think about it too much? Don't take it personal, sometimes it just doesn't click for the other person. We've all been both ends.
robaday Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Dont know mate, I mean yeah its inconsiderate, but its not worse crime in the world - had this happen to me once, wed agreed to meet once (first date), and she sent me an email telling me a really old friend was coming to town - is there anyway we can do another time. I was like sure. We met the following week. Worse thing you can do is complain. Dont invite her out again. If she wants to meet up shell let you know and take it from there. Think your maybe jumping ahead of yourself too. Trust shouldnt come into it until your in a committed relationship.......she doesnt really owe you anything at this stage. 1
phineas Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 1. never contact. 2. ignore her attempts to contact. 3.??????? 4. profit.
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