Moving...

[Buns]

Hi there,

 

I was just wondering if anyone has ever moved house to get away from seeing your ex?

It's 2 months and a week since I broke up with my boyfriend, I haven't seen him since, but I'm completly petrified of bumping into him or seeing him with someone else. I just don't want to live around here anymore.

 

 

For those of you that did move to escape the pain, did it work out for you?

 

Thanks,

[geegirl]

Hi there,

 

I was just wondering if anyone has ever moved house to get away from seeing your ex?

It's 2 months and a week since I broke up with my boyfriend, I haven't seen him since, but I'm completly petrified of bumping into him or seeing him with someone else. I just don't want to live around here anymore.

 

 

For those of you that did move to escape the pain, did it work out for you?

 

Thanks,

 

Are you close enough that you see him everyday or far enough where you can manage the distance but just fear the occasional run in?

 

Ex lived down the street from me. Had to pass his home every morning and evening. Bumped into him several times after the break-up. It devastated me. I wondered if I should move. I didn't but made sure I changed my routes, changed stores, avoided restaurants and places we went to, to try and save my sanity. A year later, I bumped into him and felt nothing.

 

I wanted to move but that would have given him too much power. I stuck it out and stayed and focused on getting better.

 

It's your decision. Are you going to run everytime you are faced with adversity?

[YorickBrown]

If you can "afford" it...why not? I did...well, actually I dont really stay at only one place for a long time. And generally I subscribe to the philosophy (pardon my French): "Don't poop in your own backyard" So I really try to keep things just "friendly" & casual where I often stay (although, this is a very hard thing to follow sometimes because of the convenience)

 

Does moving away work? Of course it would...there's nothing like time + distance to get over someone...but a caveat though..er...wait...you're a girl...??

 

Uhmmm....I was just going to say: just make sure you dont leave (or bring, in your case) his/her DNA when you move out. Treat it like a "crime scene", cause it's a "pain" when you have to go back.

[Buns]

I live 15 minutes away from him. I don't go anywhere near where he works anymore. We live near a big town, and you always bump into people you know. I don't go to any of the clubs we used to go to or restaurants, because I know that he goes out loads.

 

I've been fed up of living here for years, but being with him changed that.. Now all those feelings are coming back and I'm thinking it might not be such a bad idea to move...

[todreaminblue]

Hi there,

 

I was just wondering if anyone has ever moved house to get away from seeing your ex?

It's 2 months and a week since I broke up with my boyfriend, I haven't seen him since, but I'm completly petrified of bumping into him or seeing him with someone else. I just don't want to live around here anymore.

 

 

For those of you that did move to escape the pain, did it work out for you?

 

Thanks,

 

 

I moved house,and moved interstate.That helped me to focus on getting my life back and the physical reminders no longer became an issue...the house was a complete reminder every room actually bar the toilet......i had to go....I am a runner, i do tend to run when i cant deal with what i feel, in hindsight, moving interstate was the best move i ever made.....nearly six years down the track now....no regrets.....it was a massive move though.....two dogs, two cats,five kids a grumpy sister a tired grandmother and me a basket case with a four wheel drive fullof belongings kids and a farting rottie, two screaming meowing cats for sixteen hours....pretty cramped....not repeatable....definite one off....lol......smilin...yay i survived that....doing the dougie now.........deb

[Buns]

Well I have no animals and no family members that would be coming with me, so that's a good point for me I guess.

I'm not thinking about moving somewhere else IN the country, I'm maybe thinking of moving to a different country complety. Dubaï or Germany.. I think that professionally this would be a good move for me aswell as emotionally... My half sister lives in Germany so if I go there I would be moving near her.

[YorickBrown]

Well I have no animals and no family members that would be coming with me, so that's a good point for me I guess.

I'm not thinking about moving somewhere else IN the country, I'm maybe thinking of moving to a different country complety. Dubaï or Germany.. I think that professionally this would be a good move for me aswell as emotionally... My half sister lives in Germany so if I go there I would be moving near her.

 

Gee..this is really what you call "killing two birds with one stone" and they're quite too different birds. It really is just a question of when and where...I feel, the sooner and farther the better, I guess. I say go for it, but do it NOT because of your ex...but for yourself....and the duty-free shops in Dubai

[Buns]

Gee..this is really what you call "killing two birds with one stone" and they're quite too different birds. It really is just a question of when and where...I feel, the sooner and farther the better, I guess. I say go for it, but do it NOT because of your ex...but for yourself....and the duty-free shops in Dubai

 

Well I guess that breaking up with my ex has got me thinking about my life, and made me realize that I'm not happy where I live and that I don't see how I can be happy professionally.

 

I'm currently studying at business school, I will not be leaving in the middle of my year so I'll be leaving in summer! I'll start sending CVs off soon though.