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the more you know the less you like a person?


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Ok so attraction is mutual....

Ice is broken through small introduction

Chat...

You text

Talk

Email

What ever.....

 

Have you learned about this person and lost

The attraction?

Have you hung out dinner date etc

And once you actually talk the physical

Attraction is gone?

 

I met a women i found attractive

She expressed her foundness of me

But after talking to her i lost all attraction

 

The attaction vanished when she smiles

Way to many teeth are visable

Saw her lobes up close with out earings in

And they sag and dont look attractive

Closer look at her skin i noticed her

Past of smoking for 20 yrs didnt do any

Favors for her skin prob drank because

She has alot of broken blood vessels

In her face nose cheeks..

 

Met her in a dim lite sports bar watching

A live band... That night i would have had sex

with her....

Now im not interested....

 

Anyone else have this happen?

Teeth

Skin

Smile

Ears

Some feature that turned you off

But you didnt notice it apoun first

Meeting maybe you drank

Or it was dark.

or maybe after chatting with that

Person something turned you off

And you just couldnt date that person

Or finish the hookup?

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It's never been physical. Actually, I think certain flaws are sexy and if I really like a girl, I find them endearing. We all have flaws so that's not the issue. A girl is not going to look like an airbrushed model 24/7, especially when they wake up.

 

But personality wise, definitely. This has been my killer. I meet a very attractive woman, we hit it off, then somewhere down the line information is revealed that completely turns me off to her. Maybe she waits to tell me she has a kid, or I find out she's into drugs, or her morality/values are lacking, there's always that game changing moment where I say to myself "F***! why did you have to say/do that. Now I don't like you." :(

Posted
Ok so attraction is mutual....

Ice is broken through small introduction

Chat...

You text

Talk

Email

What ever.....

 

Have you learned about this person and lost

The attraction?

Have you hung out dinner date etc

And once you actually talk the physical

Attraction is gone?

 

I met a women i found attractive

She expressed her foundness of me

But after talking to her i lost all attraction

 

The attaction vanished when she smiles

Way to many teeth are visable

Saw her lobes up close with out earings in

And they sag and dont look attractive

Closer look at her skin i noticed her

Past of smoking for 20 yrs didnt do any

Favors for her skin prob drank because

She has alot of broken blood vessels

In her face nose cheeks..

 

Met her in a dim lite sports bar watching

A live band... That night i would have had sex

with her....

Now im not interested....

 

Anyone else have this happen?

Teeth

Skin

Smile

Ears

Some feature that turned you off

But you didnt notice it apoun first

Meeting maybe you drank

Or it was dark.

or maybe after chatting with that

Person something turned you off

And you just couldnt date that person

Or finish the hookup?

 

Sure this happens to everyone and you cannot help it. Attraction is something that cannot be controlled in that you cant force yourself to stop being attracted to someone (unless you cut them out of your life...but thats avoidance... or it fading due to time passing) and you not feeling attracted to someone you think objectively is wonderful.

 

This doesnt happen to every person you meet however...some people are attracted to others easily, some arent and go through life only attracted to a small number of people. But unless youre asexual, you are bound to become more attracted to a person the more you know them at some point in your life.

 

I have made male friends where I didnt feel attracted to them and over time, usually by their personality, I grew attracted to them. This actually happens to me alot but it may just be my personality. Some people grow attracted to co workers they initially didnt feel it with.

 

I have also dated people where my attraction vanished or faded away. It happens. Ive been on both ends of this and it is life

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Yes, however it goes with personality for me. For me to be interested initially there is usually physical attraction in the beginning - and even when I may find stuff physically I don't like I may over look that for a good personality.

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