Christmas Party Dilemma

[alaskaman]

Hi All,

 

I was divorced in June and just started dating. I've met a great lady and we have a Christmas Party for work coming up. I only told my boss at work about the divorce and only a select few know. They have met my wife a few times over the past 2 years and at last years xmas party. I would love to invite this new girl but I'm worried about it feeling awkward. I was thinking of just emailing my co-workers and letting the news out before the party. I'm unsure of what to do, go solo, invite her and don't say jack, it's none of there business anyway. I'm going to feel weird though as one lady has met my wife about 10 times and they were pretty chatty.

 

Thanks,

 

Dan

[dasein]

Well it's not going to be a great big deal either way, people care and talk about us much less than we think they do until they see us in handcuffs, then they tend to start talking Most probably won't even register the difference. If you have been divorced a very short time and/or dating this woman a very short time, would not be taking her to this kind of thing just yet, but if divorced longer than 6 months and dating her longer than a month, sure why not?

[clia]

I can't say whether or not you should bring her--that depends on your company and what most people do. If you do chose to bring her, it would be nice for you to forewarn your coworkers. Not because it is any of their business that you are divorced, but because it could be uncomfortable for your date if you don't. I can't imagine showing up at my boyfriend's work Christmas party and finding out he hadn't even told his coworkers he was divorced. How embarrassing.

[2sure]

The Only reason I can think of to tell them in advance would be ...other than the one woman, people will remember that they met your wife, but not her name or face...so, they will assume your gf is your wife....followed by awkward explanation and intros.

Doable, but be prepared. Think of something to put the moment at ease...

Or even

 

" Hi, you must be Bobs wife..."

 

"oh my god! He's married?"

[phineas]

Depends, is she younger & hotter than your ex-wife? If so THEN they will talk. LOL!

[carhill]

People can 'know' without talking about it, meaning your divorce. I seriously doubt your boss and co-workers have been totally silent on the issue.

 

I wouldn't make a production out of it and, if attending with your new ladyfriend, introduce her proactively and consistently to those you encounter and then engage them.