SpiralOut Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 I think I just need to vent.... In my workplace people ask you to contribute money to different things. This happens on a fairly regular basis. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. The last two times this happened the person collecting money was extremely rude to me. The one time, she walked up to me and glared at me until I asked what was wrong and then she asked me where was the money. Yet she didn't say anything to another coworker who gave nothing. She nagged me each day and walked away huffing and puffing if I didn't have money to give her. I ended up giving her something and later on I found out they had so much left over they didn't know what to do with it!! Today someone different approached me, to ask me if I was planning to give any money for something different. This was after she had told me she was collecting and it was optional and completley up to me if I wanted to give anything or not. I decided not to. I felt that I had been bullied into giving money last time, so I felt resentful of that and decided that I will not give anything. Yet she acted all angry towards me asking for money?? After telling me it was optional?? It pissed me off so much. Now I am for sure giving her nothing. I have no idea if she was being rude on purpose but it just pissed me off so much. I've also had to deal with tons of people asking me how much is my rent (none of your business), one idiot actually asked me how much is my paycheque (now that's REALLY none of your business!). I used to buy myself lunch sometimes instead of bringing it and I got asked oh my god how much did that cost, that's so expensive, blahblah. Is there something about me that just attracts people like this?? Why do people think it's okay to act that way towards me?? Sometimes I feel like they don't like me so they just look for things to pick apart. it's not like I wear expensive clothes. I have two or three outfits I just wear day after day. I don't go out much. Is there something that I'm doing to make myself look selfish? They know I live alone, so it's not like I'm rich. I don't know why they would EXPECT me to just give them money whenever they ask. Even if they think I'm selfish, so what. Leave me alone and don't harass me about my money. It's nobody's business. If they asked me to bake cookies I would be more interested in doing something like that. I just don't feel comfortable giving money. I don't get it.
SmileFace Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 My old co-worker asked me what was my credit score. Then got insulted when I told him that he is rude and that is none of his business. People have no limits some time. 1
MissBee Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 I think I just need to vent.... In my workplace people ask you to contribute money to different things. This happens on a fairly regular basis. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. The last two times this happened the person collecting money was extremely rude to me. The one time, she walked up to me and glared at me until I asked what was wrong and then she asked me where was the money. Yet she didn't say anything to another coworker who gave nothing. She nagged me each day and walked away huffing and puffing if I didn't have money to give her. I ended up giving her something and later on I found out they had so much left over they didn't know what to do with it!! Today someone different approached me, to ask me if I was planning to give any money for something different. This was after she had told me she was collecting and it was optional and completley up to me if I wanted to give anything or not. I decided not to. I felt that I had been bullied into giving money last time, so I felt resentful of that and decided that I will not give anything. Yet she acted all angry towards me asking for money?? After telling me it was optional?? It pissed me off so much. Now I am for sure giving her nothing. I have no idea if she was being rude on purpose but it just pissed me off so much. I've also had to deal with tons of people asking me how much is my rent (none of your business), one idiot actually asked me how much is my paycheque (now that's REALLY none of your business!). I used to buy myself lunch sometimes instead of bringing it and I got asked oh my god how much did that cost, that's so expensive, blahblah. Is there something about me that just attracts people like this?? Why do people think it's okay to act that way towards me?? Sometimes I feel like they don't like me so they just look for things to pick apart. it's not like I wear expensive clothes. I have two or three outfits I just wear day after day. I don't go out much. Is there something that I'm doing to make myself look selfish? They know I live alone, so it's not like I'm rich. I don't know why they would EXPECT me to just give them money whenever they ask. Even if they think I'm selfish, so what. Leave me alone and don't harass me about my money. It's nobody's business. If they asked me to bake cookies I would be more interested in doing something like that. I just don't feel comfortable giving money. I don't get it. Maybe it's too personal, but what kind of job do you have? It just seems weird in general that people need to be collecting money all the time for stuff. But I'd be SUPER annoyed if I worked in some place where people constantly commented about how much my lunch costs or constantly were collecting money for stuff . It is indeed none of their business.
Author SpiralOut Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 My old co-worker asked me what was my credit score. Then got insulted when I told him that he is rude and that is none of his business. People have no limits some time. That's ridiculous. Maybe it's too personal, but what kind of job do you have? It just seems weird in general that people need to be collecting money all the time for stuff. But I'd be SUPER annoyed if I worked in some place where people constantly commented about how much my lunch costs or constantly were collecting money for stuff . It is indeed none of their business. I work at a lab doing desk work. It's a small company so people collect money whenever someone is leaving the company, or has a baby, or their father dies etc etc. They don't even do it for everyone, only certain people so that's part of what annoys me I guess. Plus I just don't see why I have to give money just to show that I care. There are ways of showing you care that don't involve spending money. I really hate the mindset these people have regarding money. I'm supposed to be there to earn it, not to keep giving it away.
amaysngrace Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Couldn't you just decline and say you're already doing something else for them? Like baking cookies?
Author SpiralOut Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 (edited) Couldn't you just decline and say you're already doing something else for them? Like baking cookies? Well no since I don't see why I should have to justify myself. I prefer to tell people congratulations and that's it. If I decide to do something more, I do it on my own and don't say anything to anyone else about it. I just think it's extremely rude of people to EXPECT money from me and then to get angry at me for not giving it, and to BOTHER me about it. It makes me feel like I'm in public school and someone decides to demand that I give them my lunch money. Not that that ever happened to me, but, that's what these people remind me of. They are crazy. ETA: and for anyone who's wondering, the most recent incident was regarding someone whom I already bought a gift for for her birthdya last week, went to her party without knowing anyone even though I have social anxiety, signed her card, told her congratulations. If I choose to not give a couple bucks, for a card that probably cost like $1.50 (what exactly is she planning to do with this money anyway??) I don't see what the big deal is. Anyway whatever. I just hate how people give me dirty looks and stuff, I think it's just so rude. My cheque for rent bounced last week and dealing with my landlord hasn't been fun, so I guess that's why I exploded and needed to write this post. People are so judgemental ignorant it's stupid. Edited November 30, 2012 by SpiralOut
FitChick Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 If this seems to happen frequently, why not suggest an office petty cash fund that everyone contributes the same amount to every month and then any expenses can be taken out from that. Then have one person designated to buy one gift. Start an Excel spreadsheet showing the date, occasion and amount you contributed so you can show it to whomever is complaining that you don't chip in. Say you have only budgeted X dollars per month for office gifts. 1
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