aloneathome Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Hi All,This Might take time to read BUT PLEASE DO.I was going out with my Ex for around a year, We meet in work we did not tell anyone about it for bout 3 months. This was because her past history in her life and were she worked, I got told a lot about her by people put did not listen to anyone and carried on liking her and caring for her. This went on for a few more months then it come out one day that we was dating. She and myself did not care about what people said, Then a few more months passed and we started to fight on and off a good few times. Then it was fine for a month (this Oct) She went away with a friend to a other country (I trusted her 100% ) she went way for 5 days and come back. She styed in mine for the 2 days when she come back and she was a little strange but did not think of it. At the same time she added to people on Facebook that she meet over there I said nothing. Until I was dropping her off home one day and asked who there people was she said they were friends so carried on with the day. Two days after she texted me saying we need to talk I rang her she did not answer she texted saying I cant talk right now. A few days passed she come into work asking what days am I on. I said lates all week (was on a early just one day) She turned around and said its over you have lied about things to me and you have lied again and its over. She blocked me on Facebook straight away and we did not talk for a few days, then out the blue texted me saying ""come here want a hug and I miss you" I said you told me its over.A few more days passed again and her friend told me that when she come back from being away she told her friend that she liked this man she meet and have been skypeing him all the time. I rang her and asked her straight she turned around and said no nothing is going on. But yeah been skypeing him and that's not a crime.And few more days go and hear more and more that she has been telling people that she likes him and then I found out tat this man was coming to see her. Then she un-blocked me on facebook. All she said was its over I will never trust you again. Then I asked about this man and said tell me the truth. DO YOU LIKE THIS MAN she said no DO YOU FANCY THIS MAN she said no I believed her.And now this man has been over to see her and gone home (I don't know what has happed while he has been over here and what they have done but I keep thinking of her more and more)Every time I see her I fall in love all over again and just want to hold her and touch and kiss her again.Its been over 45 days now since we have split up and 20 days with no contact it kills me. I pray every night that she will come back to me and hope But I seen her today talking to some one and she said I CANT WAIT TO SEE HIM AGAIN.I LOVE her more then anything in the world and would do anything for her, she is the love of my life*Some times I wish I could turn back time and start all over againPlease advise in what to do????
Trixis4kidz Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 My first advice is to take an English class and learn how to write including the usage of punctuation and paragraph structure. That being said dude, come on! Really? She doesn't want you anymore. Why try to hold onto something you never really had. You had some good times with her, enjoyed yourself, and had experiences. Use those experiences to your advantage and move on. Go out, meet someone else, and pursue your life free from this person. There is nothing you're going to do to make her be who you want her to be.
dasein Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 This person is completely unworthy of your feelings. People who are worth your precious time don't cheat, don't lie about it, and they especially don't blameshift their own bad behavior to you by accusing you of something that they themselves did. Life with this pig would bring you endless misery, you are so lucky to have this vile person out of your life. The hurt and pain are not love, but just withdrawal pangs. You know in your mind this person is not a good person, and not worth your time. Throw yourself into another aspect of life and forget this terrible experience. Next time listen to warnings of friends more when meeting someone new. Good luck. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 (edited) Obvious she didn't care for you. From What i read: constant putting you off. Random breakups. Lies even. Disrespectful in having another Guy come over...feel lucky you got out early. Not saying she did,but could have cheated...why would he come a long way to just see her? Sometimes friends of cheaters hate seeing what their friend does and tells the truth. anyway...I'm sorry but she's not right. Don't be obsessive(trust me it isn't healthy.) She will earn what she sows. Edited November 29, 2012 by Toddbt12y1
Author aloneathome Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 hi guys thanks for getting in touch. its hard to see her evwry day in work like i seen her today and fell in love all over again. i said today dont you want all the things that we had like staying the night holding hands while out kissing wtc she said yes of choice but cant trust you. i will love her untill i die. i dont think so is not that bad but it comes across that she was passing the blame. why not tell me the truth and why this facebook thing?
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 hi guys thanks for getting in touch. its hard to see her evwry day in work like i seen her today and fell in love all over again. i said today dont you want all the things that we had like staying the night holding hands while out kissing wtc she said yes of choice but cant trust you. i will love her untill i die. i dont think so is not that bad but it comes across that she was passing the blame. why not tell me the truth and why this facebook thing? She will never tell you the truth. She is shifting her sick affairs on you. Don't even talk to this messed up girl. She is cheating. She is lying. Throwing off she cannot trust you...to throw you off her trails. Dude. It is bad. I'm sorry, it is. Don't be a doormat for a manipulator. (Remember no one likes to admit wrong..it'll make them look bad. Cheaters rarely admit wrong. Many lie themselves into believing their own sick lies. they tell you or agree with you that they want some cherished moment you always wanted to weaken and control you... Trust me. I will be real: the way you are heading will warp your mentality. Do not let her destroy you.
ascendotum Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 "I got told a lot about her by people put did not listen to anyone" So does her behavior with you somewhat match up with her reputation? I'd wager she slept with her skype buddy overseas. This guy got a taste, that's why he's jumping on a plane soon after...to see a girl in another country that supposedly according to her, has no feelings for him. uh-huh! Her behaviour is erratic, and I'd say her accusing you of lying is her guilty conscience trying to justify her behaviour on you. Don't burn a candle for her, as hard as it is since it seems you are still attracted to her charms. You are a just a memory for her now so it seems since she now has a second guy to focus her attention on. Just try to minimize contact at work and keep it formal & professional (as much as it hurts) and do like her, find someone new to take your mind of her. 1
Author aloneathome Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 thanks but i am destoryed at this point one min she wants to work it then dont then do. my head is all over the place. she said today its been two months you should be over this by now. isaid everyone is differnt and take things differnt ways. i said before dont you want to spend the night with me and hold hands kiss and do the things we use to do she said of course i do??? but i dont and cant trust you. strange to say.
mammasita Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 I don't see anywhere in your post that even hints that you lied to her. Did I miss it? Bottom line is she's playing games with you. Your best option is to forget her. Be angry at her, it's ok. Spend time with your friends and family to keep your mind off of her.
ascendotum Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 So what are the specifics of her trust issues with you? You didn't mention about one of your shifts...woooo. What else has she got to accuse you of that comes anywhere near her shady behaviour with her skype buddy?
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Only you now are allowing yourself and her to destroy you. You gave the devil power to hurt you and she is. But so are you. You keep telling her the samething to get the same sad story. She is not right. You are not right...least for now. It took me a year + to recover from a girl who I was with for four half years who cheated on me for a whole year. I took her back ten times...ofc...I lacked proof of her cheating or I'd never taken her back. Once they cheat without remorse...its over. Find another job if you must. But you're making yourself the victim now...I know how it feels...
Author aloneathome Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 i know what u mean heard alot of people saying what to do. its just so hard to see her after everything we been through. yeah i have lied to her about stupied things but everyone lies in life we all have faults. i havenever cheated hurt her and never would. anything she wanted she got. i woll never get the truth. but if not this man its a other man then a other. shame swe ended at this point in life.
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 All breakups are a shame. If only sure are lonely words. She will not stop. Sounds like a serial cheater. Means all her life she'll never be happy and cheat a lot. Lonely life. BTW. Try and not overboard on anymore girls as far as gifts go. Be firm. Its good to get them things, but not always. In tike you will heal and find a better angel. Hell, you may go through more bad girls before a good one or maybe not at all(I sacrificed my sanity to a great deal for mine...which is why I plead with you to ignore her if possible or be short and professional at work.) One day she will pay(may not regret, but pay.)
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