Sun Devil Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I have been told that I should let a girl know that I am interested in dating her quickly before I get placed in the friendzone. Is it a good idea to tell a girl that I want to take her on a date after only a couple of meetings or should I take my time?
pteromom Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I think it is good to start getting to know her better right away. Why waste time? I'd ask right away, but be really casual about it. (Both in how you ask, and in what you ask her.)
Shaun-Dro Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I have been told that I should let a girl know that I am interested in dating her quickly before I get placed in the friendzone. Is it a good idea to tell a girl that I want to take her on a date after only a couple of meetings or should I take my time? Personally, I don't tell them anything. I let my lips do the talking.
MyPoutine Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Just don't come on too strong and try to gauge if there is a spark before letting her know, then again if she's shy she may hide how she feels. Good luck
udolipixie Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 It's good to be blunt with gals about your romantic/sexual intentions in my opinion as perhaps there would be far less whining from guys about how they were 'friend zoned' by a gal they were friendly to and shown no romantic/sexual interest.
Ross MwcFan Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I usually always hear that the way it usually works is that you become friends first, and then things will develop naturally from there.
somedude81 Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 This question is one of my top issues with dating. I've never been able to figure out what to do.
pteromom Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 This question is one of my top issues with dating. I've never been able to figure out what to do. "Hey, Popular_Band_Name is going to be at Bar_Name this weekend. Would you like to go check it out?" "I could use a cup of coffee. How about you?" "Some of my friends are meeting at Place_Name tonight. You wanna go?" She mentions a hobby. "I don't know much about that. What do you think about me coming next time/joining you?" (assuming the hobby isn't knitting or something) Really, it doesn't have to be that complicated, and you can keep it casual. It doesn't have to be an official "date". Once you are somewhere with her, stand closely to her. If she keeps backing away, she's probably not interested. If not, casually touch her (hand on her back). If she doesn't move away still, she's likely interested, so just keep moving forward. If you get to a point where your arm is fully around her or you are holding hands, and she's happy with it, you are almost certainly IN. 2
Necromancer Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Would you rather spend 2 months or 2 days to know if she wants to go out with you?. You only get in the FZ if she doesn't find you attractive(90% looks). The moment she saw you it was most likely yes/no. In rare cases no becomes yes because of personality but never count on it.
Trixis4kidz Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I don't think I understand this question. Dude, if your not going on a date with a chick, then your her friend. It's that simple. If you like some girl - ask her on a date activity. You don't have to use the word "date". But something along the lines, of would you like to go here, there, anywhere with me, conveys the same understanding. If she says yes, then she's at least somewhat interested. And on set date, make sure she understands what YOU want. In other words, touch her during the date. And I don't mean in a perverted way, but touch her arm when she laughs, rub her back slightly, little things. And at the end, go in for the kiss and hopefully more. Life is too short to play games and wait. Go for it, you have nothing to lose, chicks are EVERYWHERE.
El Brujo Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 In a word, NO. Bluntness is never ok unless you're a kid.
reallyhotguy Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Here's an example of the pace you want to take: Girl: "Hello Sun Devil, my name is G--" Sun Devil: "I WANT TO GO ON A DATE NOW."
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