dwntown Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 (edited) My break-up story is like an episode of Jerry Spring. Hard to believe its even real. We were a lesbian couple. My ex girlfriend and I were best friends before we started dating which was 6 years ago. We were going to be celebrating our 5 year anniversary 2/2013. We have lived together for 2 years; both have full-time jobs (I’m 27 and she’s 25), went to high school together, have a close group of friends and are both very close to each other’s families. A few months before the break-up she became very secretive with her phone, staying late at work, being distant, and not talking to me very much. At this point our life had become very boring, and routine. I knew we were both feeling the pressure and we needed to spend more time on our relationship and less time working. Come to find out my ex had been having an emotional affair with a co-worker, this co-worker was married and 8 months pregnant. My ex denied, denied, and denied some more that anything was going on and promised their “friendship” would end and my ex would spend more time at home. The relationship with them got even more intense and when I found out I flipped my **** and our relationship went downhill from there. I was willing to stay and try to sort our relationship out and make it work if possible. My ex on the other hand insisted that she didn’t leave me for anyone but that she needed space and wanted to be alone so she could figure herself out because she felt lost in who she was. I moved out of our house the middle of October and never heard from my ex again, I contacted her a few times and we argued because she couldn’t be honest. While I was still living in the house we were in separate rooms and she as an emotional rollercoaster, one minute she was crying saying she loved me and wanted to make it work and later that night after work it was like that conversation never happened. This went on for 1 ½ months. She had told all of our friends that she as done and I was the one pursuing her the entire time when it was back and forth for weeks. She has deep emotional problems and has a hard time letting people in emotionally, she keeps everyone at a distance so if they leave she wont feel anything. I have recently learned that the co-worker has been staying at our house a lot, im not sure what to think about that since she is still married and about to give birth. I was also told that the co-worker doesn’t know that my ex and I were together and my ex told the co-worker that I was a crazy stalker who would leave her alone, mind you we were about to get engaged and buy a home together. Is it possible that my ex might be bi-polar? Her mom as a lot of mental issues and with my ex being all over the place its scary. Im done wanting her back, we have been officially over for 3 months and i tried everything to get her back, and did NC. Its a messed up situation and everyday more pieces unfold. Its hard to believe this is a real story and its mine. I didnt want to write to much but if you have questions ask, a lot is missing. Edited November 28, 2012 by dwntown Forgot info
KatZee Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Bi-polar? I don't see that. I see a girl who got bored, found something new and exciting with a coworker and raced off to chase it. Exactly like most hetero-sexual couples that post on here. Some would call it GIGS. Is this co-worker a lesbian as well or bi-curious? You say she's married... so are they even having a real affair? You did say emotional affair, so are they really carrying on as a couple?
Author dwntown Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 I thought it was GIGS for awhile too, but with the constant lying to our family and friends its like shes convincing herself that was shes doing is perfectly acceptable. I thought bi-polar because of her constant mood swings for the 1 1/2 we were going through everything. It was horrible she would wake up one morning come in my room tell me she loved me and wanted to spend time with me and that night come home and change her mind, this was everyday. Im not sure about the co-worker being bi or bi-curious, I know she has been married for 2 years and is about to give birth to their baby. I know for sure it was an emotional affair to say the least. I never had any proof that they had physical relations but I cant be certain. Nobody knows about the co-worker, all of our friends were told that by my ex that she left to be alone and needed space. My ex doesnt talk or bring the co-worker around, its like shes living 2 seperate lives.
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