blue_jay_bird Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 NC 6 months, 7 year relationship. Im still in alot of pain, finding it hard to concentrate. I miss him deeply, so much. I want to keep going and not break NC, but i guess im asking for some encouragement. I mean it feels like it's been a life time, people say's time heals all wounds. How much longer.
LostOne1 Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Someone once told me it takes half the time of your relationship. So for 7 yrs it would take 3.5 yrs to fully heal. I know for me personally it takes about a full year to get over it all. That was last time, but my recent 3yr relationship was so much closer and different. I don't know how I will get over it honestly. I don't even know how my ex got over it. I guess it was easy for her to find ALL my bad qualities and tell herself them over and over, which allowed her to move on. I know how hard it is to concentrate I have that problem too right now. That's why school has been so tough, because I have no motivation to do much. I feel the pain so badly that I can't fully get rid of it. I find I am watching tons of tv and movies lately. It's the only thing that helps keep my mind off from the pain. Worst part will be the the holidays. My school ends next week with our final exams. Then I have all of december and it's going to be tough. I have kind of decided I will do things like take walks to the beach and just go out a lot even if I'm alone. Being stuck at home does nothing positive or good. TIme does heal wounds. My last relationship I was in so much pain I took a different major in school. Finished it in 8 months. Then for the next few months I took a family vacation trip away for about 2 months. I came back a better, stronger and happier person. But then valentines day came and that's when I realized I was still alone. That's how I found my ex. Funny thing is the same thing seems like it's going to happen. Shortly the holidays will arrive, then her bday, then valentines day... and I'll most likely be alone. I kinda have no real interest in being with anyone else right now. All I can say is it will hurt, but post here and talk about it all. Vent out as much as possible, that's what I have been doing as of late and it seems to help. And it's also good to know I'm not the only one suffering and struggling. Others are feeling the same pain too.
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