happyhat Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I'm attending college and a have a major crush on a girl in one of my classes. This isn't really a class where you can talk in the middle of it, and she always leaves class with one or two guy friends so I have never had the opportunity to talk with her; I don't even know her name, or know if she has a boyfriend. I haven't been this attracted to a girl in a long time. I'm not the type to ask girls out as I'm somewhat shy around girls I have a crush on, (all my girlfriends in the past have just happened one way or another), but I have to ask this girl out; its eating my alive! I don't know how to do it. I guess I feel weird since she has been in my class all semester and now its the end of the semester and I haven't made any attempts to talk to her. I was thinking of just thinking of walking up to her after class and being blunt: "Hey I find you really attractive, do you want to go out sometime?" But I'm wondering, is it weird if I don't introduce myself and find out her name first? Should I ask her if she has a boyfriend first? Should I attempt to make small talk first (might get awkward)? Ahhh analysis paralysis! Any advice? Thanks!
Trixis4kidz Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Continue to follow her after class until she is alone and make your move. Say something like, "excuse me you're in Prof's (name) (subject) class right?" "Hi, I'm (Your name). I don't want to take too much of your time here, I just had to introduce myself to you, you're quite striking. I'd really like to sit down with you sometime over coffee or something and get your ideas on some things. Would that be alright?" You should be able to take it from there.
Casablanca Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Tough situation, you need separation, perhaps buy her friends a coffee or something for class and put a crap ton of laxatives in it so they have to leave early!
Nightsky Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I'm attending college and a have a major crush on a girl in one of my classes. I hope you're trying to be cute with the term crush because you're a little old to be infatuated in such a grade school way. Think of it as liking or loving the way she looks and wanting to get to know her better. Don't be so infatuated. This isn't really a class where you can talk in the middle of it' date=' and she always leaves class with one or two guy friends so I have never had the opportunity to talk with her; [/quote'] You mean this is a standard style class. If there are a lot of people in the class you might get away with whispering or passing her a note. Heck even if there aren't a lot of people you could just whisper or pass her a not that you need a study buddy or some other Finley veiled excuse to talk to her and get to know her. I don't even know her name' date=' or know if she has a boyfriend.[/quote'] Well you don't need to know her name or if she has a boyfriend. You'll find all that out when you finally just go talk to her. I haven't been this attracted to a girl in a long time. There are a lot of pretty faces out there and you don't even know this girls name so try to keep that in mind. A lot of the real strong attraction comes when you actually get to touch and be with the girl for real. Don't become to obsessed with some girl you don't even know yet. Use the fact that you have a strong attraction as motivation to do something about it. Go get er! I'm not the type to ask girls out as I'm somewhat shy around girls I have a crush on' date=' (all my girlfriends in the past have just happened one way or another), but I have to ask this girl out; its eating my alive![/quote'] Stop calling it a crush unless it's to be funny, and go ask this girl out! Just do it and stop asking how to do it. I don't know how to do it. I guess I feel weird since she has been in my class all semester and now its the end of the semester and I haven't made any attempts to talk to her. I was thinking of just thinking of walking up to her after class and being blunt: "Hey I find you really attractive, do you want to go out sometime?" But I'm wondering, is it weird if I don't introduce myself and find out her name first? Should I ask her if she has a boyfriend first? Should I attempt to make small talk first (might get awkward)? Ahhh analysis paralysis! Any advice? Thanks! Yes you have analysis paralysis. Something I've never called it but from here forward will use cause it is catchy and rhymes. You see you are clever! If you ask her if she has a boyfriend it will be awkward. I mean she knows where you're going with it. Why not just make some small talk. You know "I enjoyed having class with you" "oh you did..." "yeah we never talked but I really liked being in class with you." than you ask "what's your name" than you could comment "that's a really pretty name" see it's like you're calling her pretty with out calling her pretty. Than just ask her out. No need to be like "hey you're really attractive." Just be like "Let's have dinner _______ night" than whether she says yes, no or maybe you get her number. Voila. Easy.
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