timtom03box3 Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 is this is gonna be fairly long sorry, so i met this girl at a party, was incredibly drunk and we ended up getting with each other, she had a bf at the time and there relationship was on the rocks, they had dated for 9 months but she felt things were coming to an end i realized i liked alot and decided to attend a music festival which i knew she would be at, on the first night, by chance we met in the crowd and ended up getting with each other, we spent the whole 4 day festival with each other even though her boyfriend was there, i felt bad about what i was doing to this poor guy and eventually she broke down and stop hanging out with me, she confronted her boyfirend on the last night and told him what had been happening we never did anything other than kiss, they broke up, and she came home with me from the festival, we spent the next 5 days in a row at my house, it took 4-5 days before we actually slept together and this was the first time for me, we then contiuned to spend everyday together, it took me 2 weeks before i told her i loved her and to my surprise she told me she loved also, for the next 2 months we were so happy, until out of nowhere she became increasing depressed and decided we needed a break, this was hard for me and i called her and text her all the time, i heard from friends that she still had feelings for her ex and that was the reason, i found out that he kissed her at point during our break but nothing more and he when he made futher advances he rejected her, tbh this didnt bother me, they went out for 9 months ofc ouse there is still gonna be feelings there , what did bother me however was apparently she had told people that she never loved me and was just confused when she was with me, i called her in a fit of rage and she denied it, ( this information had come through about 3-4 people) i asked her if we were over for good, and she said yes, i deleted her and blocked her fb, the next day she text me? and again the next night, i always ignored the last text, few days passed with no contact, there was a party coming up we were both going to, things got ugly here, i asked to talk to her, and she cried her eyes saying how it was hard for her aswell, having a go at me for not replying to her texts saying she feels like shes in love with 2 people, the night eneded with her getting so drunk she got taken home by her parents. the next morning i woke up to find i had a text off her, i called her and we talked and had a good life and decided we should met that night, she told me she still loved me and wanted to be with me, but we would take things slower this time round, iv forgot to mention she had been suffering from depression thats what led to the initial break up, when we started going out again she was seeing a councilor and crying to me most nights, things wernt the same, she was differrent, one day she was completely in love with me, the next she was cold and could get very upset and angry very easily, i ever started question the relationship myself. eventually it got to the point about a month later, where she decided she couldnt go on with our relationship, the slightlest thing i would wrong could make her cry and with her depression she couldnt give her all to the relationship. so we broke up again, she said she loved me still and wanted to be with me but just couldnt cause of how she felt. i want people to understand this she does have quite serious depression and do think this is the reason to our break up. she cried to me on the night of the break up and we talked for an hour on the phone, she said she didnt want to lose me from her life and needed me there, but it came to the next night and she didnt text or anything, so i text her, it took her 2 hours to reply which angered me and i sent her some angry texts, this happened again 2 days later when i was drunk, i apologies ed for it and told me we need space, or things are gonna be bitter, which i agreed with. what i want to know is, how long does initial break up pain take to go, it hurts so much, i think about her all the time, will this subside in a week or 2, i know the pain will last a while but im talking about the initial gut wrenching pain of heart break how long does that last? how long should i leave it before i contact her again, all i want to do it talk to her, its been 2 days, or should i just leave it till she wants to talk to me? i still love her, and she loves me, how do i move on know that ? is there any methods i can use to try and get her back? please help thank you
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