Girlfriend of six years dumped me out of nowhere, what do I do?

[DGMiller]

My girlfriend of six years randomly told me she needed space and dumped me out of nowhere. When I told you we were in love, that is an understatement. All of our friends were jealous of us. We are young, im 21 shes 20, we go to school together, it may seem crazy, but we are the best of friends with a great group of friends and two families who support and love us both. There had been no issues, so that's what im having trouble with is that i can't change or do anything else. She said she needed space and that she lost feelings. But then told the girls that were friends with that she just is panicking at a young age. So i want to know which it is. Im hoping she goes and meets some other guys and realizes we were so happy together. I'm doing my best coping with this, and I haven't communicated with her. I've been going out with my friends trying to show her i'm doing better without her so that she'll hopefully run back to me. What else can I do? We literally were in LOVE.

[Chi townD]

It sounds like the case of the GIGS. Plus, you guys are WAY young. So, oc course she's going to have those feelings of not experiencing anything in life. A lot of girls don't usually get tied down at such a young age and that's probably what she's feeling. And no you do want her to hook up with other guys. The first time you hear about it, you're going to be a basket case.

 

So, if she wants you out of her life, you give her exactly that. Nothing at all. Go NC on her. She's going to need to see what life is going to be like without you in it.

[KatZee]

You guys got together at 14. The fact that you've lasted this long absolutely says something about you two, that what you had was real... however people change DRASTICALLY from teen years, to early 20's then to mid-twenties and then into the thirties. The brain is still growing, emotions and feelings change. What someone thinks they wanted at 14-20 isn't going to be what they feel they want and need from 21-25.

 

These are really important years of growth. I wouldn't sit around hoping she runs back to you. I think she needs to experience other people, date other guys. Basically, people grow up.

 

That doesn't mean she doesn't still care for you, but she may not see you as a life long partner anymore.

 

Keep NC and work on yourself. Don't do it for her, do it for you.

[DGMiller]

I definitely am going to do the no contact rule. We have a class together and she was really nice yesterday asking for the friendship. I sort of gave in, but not at all like we were when we dated. I basically said you know what I want, but I'm moving on. I want to freak her out and let her know that I'm better than her so she'll want me back. I am in LOVE with this girl I promise you, so Im doing everything I can to get it back. Any other recommendations you guys can give me? thank you..