irc333 Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I was wondering, I know there are some of those that wont' date single parents, but what about single grand parents....under the age of 40? Would that be a turn off for you? Would it raise an eyebrow considering that their kids seem to have fallen into the teenage pregnancy dilemma?
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Well I'm 21 so I wouldn't even date over 30 but I wouldn't date someone who is a 40 year old grandparent it means they obviously have no ability to raise children which is a concern
2.50 a gallon Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Luckily I snagged one of them, she is still a couple of years from turning 60, with a face you'd want to kiss good morning for the rest of your life, along with a sexy pony tail, still has great legs and an hour glass shape. Eye candy to my retired eyes. And she is the sweetest, most caring loving woman I have ever known. You can look, but you can't touch!
mammasita Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Well I'm 21 so I wouldn't even date over 30 but I wouldn't date someone who is a 40 year old grandparent it means they obviously have no ability to raise children which is a concern How does that mean they don't have the ability to raise a child?
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 How does that mean they don't have the ability to raise a child? They are a grandparent at 40...
mammasita Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 They are a grandparent at 40... I get that part, but how can you speculate that they didn't do a good job raising their child? Say the grandparent had their child at 20, their child is 19 and for whatever reason (condom broke, rape, stupidity) has a baby. How is that an accurate reflection of their parenting ability? Sure it can mean that, but I disagree with lumping every under 40 grandparent into the same category.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I get that part, but how can you speculate that they didn't do a good job raising their child? Say the grandparent had their child at 20, their child is 19 and for whatever reason (condom broke, rape, stupidity) has a baby. How is that an accurate reflection of their parenting ability? Sure it can mean that, but I disagree with lumping every under 40 grandparent into the same category. Well I'm lumping them in the same category.. As people who can't parent.
GirlontheLam Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Gosh I am behind. I don't have kids yet. Actually....I did hear about someone who was a grandparent at 30. Now that is pretty troubling. 40...not so much.
veggirl Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 fkkkkkkkkk no. lol omg. I am 29 and if I dated a 39 yr old grandpa...I mean I can hardly wrap my head around that. Absolutely not. DEALBREAKER! eta: I wouldn't date a 39 yr old anyway, that's too old for me.
GorillaTheater Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Once you go grandpa, you never go back. 1
CarrieT Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Well I'm lumping them in the same category.. As people who can't parent. Why be so short-sighted? Many 20-year olds have been and can be wonderful parents. And if their children procreate at an early age, then who is to say they cannot be wonderful parents as well. Age does not necessarily create wisdom and jumping to the conclusion that they are bad parents because they procreated young in life is just rude. 1
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Why be so short-sighted? Many 20-year olds have been and can be wonderful parents. And if their children procreate at an early age, then who is to say they cannot be wonderful parents as well. Age does not necessarily create wisdom and jumping to the conclusion that they are bad parents because they procreated young in life is just rude. Why is a 20 year old a parent...? That's not the best idea obviously.. At least not from what I have heard here. And if you had your kid at 20 then they get pregnant as a teen you obviously taught them nothing so I'm going to assume you're a bad parent and not someone I would want to date
SmileFace Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Why is a 20 year old a parent...? That's not the best idea obviously.. At least not from what I have heard here. And if you had your kid at 20 then they get pregnant as a teen you obviously taught them nothing so I'm going to assume you're a bad parent and not someone I would want to date Aren't you always talking about wanting to be a parent right now?
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Aren't you always talking about wanting to be a parent right now? Which is why I said "from what I heard" as in what I have been told on here by EVERYONE telling me that "oh don't get pregnant now" bloop bloop so obviously its bad. Like I said they are UNDATEABLE this topic isn't about me.
SmileFace Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Which is why I said "from what I heard" as in what I have been told on here by EVERYONE telling me that "oh don't get pregnant now" bloop bloop so obviously its bad. Like I said they are UNDATEABLE this topic isn't about me. So with that reasoning - you think your parents haven't taught you anything? Since if you got pregnant you will keep the child, right? Plus it seems as if you had the chance you will have a child already. Don't you see how contradictory your postings are? Granted I don't think anyone should have child so young but that doesn't mean they will be any less of a parent. Since parenting is no difference with age.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 So with that reasoning - you think your parents haven't taught you anything? Since if you got pregnant you will keep the child, right? Plus it seems as if you had the chance you will have a child already. Don't you see how contradictory your postings are? Granted I don't think anyone should have child so young but that doesn't mean they will be any less of a parent. Since parenting is no difference with age. If I got pregnant tomorrow my parents would be age appropriate for grandparents. I also said teen am I a teen at 21 years old? No. The question is about dating grandparents who are 40 if you are 40 and a grandparent yes I'm going to assume you suck as a parent oh well moving on
SmileFace Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 If I got pregnant tomorrow my parents would be age appropriate for grandparents. I also said teen am I a teen at 21 years old? No. The question is about dating grandparents who are 40 if you are 40 and a grandparent yes I'm going to assume you suck as a parent oh well moving on Correct. If you had a child at 21 and your child had a child at 18... you will be a 40 year old grandmother. I was in no way referring to your parents. Plus take you ex for example -- in about 15 years he may just be a grandpa under 40 (if he is in your age range). Anyone who has a child at the age of 26 and below has the chance of being a grand parent under 40. So any guy in your age range that you date who has a kid has that chance. So that technically doesn't make them undatable to you. Do you see how that works? Why you even answered this thread is beyond me since you don't date guys over 30 years old so technically speaking you would date a 40 year old grandpa.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Correct. If you had a child at 21 and your child had a child at 18... you will be a 40 year old grandmother. I was in no way referring to your parents. Plus take you ex for example -- in about 15 years he may just be a grandpa under 40 (if he is in your age range). Anyone who has a child at the age of 26 and below has the chance of being a grand parent under 40. So any guy in your age range that you date who has a kid has that chance. So that technically doesn't make them undatable to you. Do you see how that works? Why you even answered this thread is beyond me since you don't date guys over 30 years old so technically speaking you would date a 40 year old grandpa. Ok but as of now is he a grandpa? No. And no my kids will not be teen parents so I won't be a 40 year old grandmother.
carhill Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 The doctor I dated and had a relationship with, though 46 when I met her, was a grandparent at 40 (just prior actually) and also had a 15yo daughter. I found her to be quite responsible, mature and loving and a great mom and grandma to boot. The main reason she was in that dynamic was because she got married young and both she and her exH were doctors in the Soviet army. Many of the ladies I dated in my 30's had teenage children so perhaps that dynamic is more common in my demographic. I didn't give it much thought at the time.
SmileFace Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Ok but as of now is he a grandpa? No. And no my kids will not be teen parents so I won't be a 40 year old grandmother. You won't date someone who is over 30... grandpa or not. So your response wouldn't matter. Plus ou have no way of knowing that. You think you parents want you meeting strangers at hotels and having sex with them?... you don't know what your kids will do.
Art_Critic Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 A very good friend of mine who just turned 40 last year became a GM this year by her middle child... She is a wonderful person, Mom and Grandma and all 3 of her Kids are wonderful grown ups...
mammasita Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Ok but as of now is he a grandpa? No. And no my kids will not be teen parents so I won't be a 40 year old grandmother. You have absolutely NO control over that. Are you gonna be putting the condom on your sons penis, sitting in between your child and their significant other on the couch so they dont touch or shoving birth control down your daughters throat???? Kids don't always do what their parents want no matter how well they are raised.
Treasa Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Why is a 20 year old a parent...? That's not the best idea obviously.. At least not from what I have heard here. And if you had your kid at 20 then they get pregnant as a teen you obviously taught them nothing so I'm going to assume you're a bad parent and not someone I would want to date That's making a lot of assumptions. My mom was married and had me when she was 20. After my father turned out to be abusive, she left him when I was two, raised me on her own, and I ended up being a smart, educated, articulate, witty, kind, awesome 37-year-old who hasn't had kids. Heh. Not all young parents are bad parents. Each person makes their own decisions. My mom still says to me that if she could, she'd change who my father was, but she'd never change what happened because then she never would have had me.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 That's making a lot of assumptions. My mom was married and had me when she was 20. After my father turned out to be abusive, she left him when I was two, raised me on her own, and I ended up being a smart, educated, articulate, witty, kind, awesome 37-year-old who hasn't had kids. Heh. Not all young parents are bad parents. Each person makes their own decisions. My mom still says to me that if she could, she'd change who my father was, but she'd never change what happened because then she never would have had me. Ok but you have no kids so that's all irrelevant
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 You have absolutely NO control over that. Are you gonna be putting the condom on your sons penis, sitting in between your child and their significant other on the couch so they dont touch or shoving birth control down your daughters throat???? Kids don't always do what their parents want no matter how well they are raised. I know they won't be teen parents yes I will shove birth control pills down my kids throat if need be. SF, yes I've done all that and still am not pregnant and wasn't a teen mom.
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