fluffyfluff Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Its been a year since I posted last and a lot has changed. I think its taken a year for things to settle down so we can see our separation for what it is. We have been separated for a year and a month. its has come out that after the birth of our first child that we are both dealing with a lot of mental health issues. Mine being very high anxiety and some depression. His being some depression and night terrors (which scared the living daylights out of me with a new born). It seems after the birth of our first child these things absolutely exacerbated and we ended up separating through a very bitter battle in the courts mainly due to my anxiety issues being so overly defensive and unable to see things rationally. I was living in a real fear of EVERYTHING it feels today and I still struggle with my anxiety a bit. Court regarding property has been adjourned for trial for 7 months so we are taking a big breather. Thank you God Im exhausted. We both could only agree on one thing months ago and that was that we both didn't want this outcome. Things have been good between us of late, especially since I have been curbing my anxiety. He did mention a settlement offer would be put forward shortly 3 weeks ago as he wants to put the bitterness behind us. But I haven't received anything. I am feeling anxious about this. I told him I feel we need to work out something which we can both live with. I still love him and I feel he loves me still, but with the circus that went on its hard to move forward. I just hope that no settlement letter is a good thing so we can keep taking baby steps in creating a better relationship. Ive never seen such damage in my life, I still feel my whole separation hard to accept or that its even real. I think Im still in a bit of a spin, but thats how it came about. My life spun out of control. I also feel with his in a way indirectness on this matter its giving me anxiety. I want to contact him and say hey its been 3 weeks where is my offer I have mega anxiety issues what are you doing to me? Or hey if your not giving me an offer can you talk to me about why not! I just feel like a sitting duck or that Im held in be nice and we might get back together..... I haven't said a thing, but its starting to eat at me. Link to post Share on other sites
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