Failboy Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 No you wouldnt. All of the men in relationships where they are happy would ditch their current one for the hot girls chasing them...or at least try to keep their gf and have the hot girls at the same time. This is called "having the best of both worlds" or commonly termed "having your cake and eating it too" You sound like a nice boy, but very naiive. Tons of men want to have their cake and eat it too. Some men care about nothing but sex, but men still want support and companionship. Men have emotional needs. I never said they didnt...but sex and hot women take precedence and if a man can get away with having a gf to provide the companionship and emotional fulfillment and sexual variety on the side- he will most certainly do so. This is why men love "open relationships" They get BOTH. Look at all the threads here about girls complaining their boyfriends are scouting for other women and are worried about an attractive friend or co worker he eyeballs and makes inappropriate comments towards, flirts with too much. Yes this happens in relationships where men shouldnt even be with them, but it happens all the time in perfectly happy relationships too. That is not news for me, but I was pointing out the logical fallacy... if a guy is getting chased by 10s, he will also be in a relationship with a 10 and not be with a 6 while screwing 10s on the side. This doesn't make sense. Unless there are external factors like money, marriage and kids involved, of course. Either way if you hate men's (theoretical) behaviour in relationships so much and if you are also so damn happy without dating, so happy with friends and your career and so on, why in the world did you make this thread? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/359164-whats-wrong-me-why-can-i-not-get-boyfriend Don't be bitter, there's plenty of guys who wouldn't cheat on you or anything. I'd date you in a heartbeat. If you prefer the type with tons of options, you have to live with the fear of them acting on it. Although not as many as you assume actually would.
Under The Radar Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 (edited) Should I keep trying my best to make this relationship work? Because its not like i wanted to get attracted to this new girl. Is there nothing I can do other than feel sorry about her!? And okay, if I find the person that's 'meant to be', then will I never get so attracted to other girls? How do I know when I've found the right one, so that I can fight for her for life!? OP, you will always be attracted to other women throughout the course of your life; it's completely normal. Most healthy men are this way (as in 99%) and, if the chance arose (based purely on animal instincts) to have sex with an attractive woman, they would (barring pregnancy, STD's, or an emotional attachment) if there were no negative repercussions. HOWEVER, during the course of your life, understand that these thoughts are your male biology talking to you (the little head versus the big head so to speak). Myself, and many of the men I know, wouldn't risk losing a wonderful girlfriend (or wife) to have NSA sex with another person. Why? Well, because great sex is a novelty that WILL wear off at some point (I can't believe I just said that) without a holistic connection to your partner. Sex is only one aspect of a romantic relationship (albeit an important one for men). Any meaningful relationship, to survive past the "honeymoon stage", will require much more than physical attraction. In other words, sex with another woman is not worth losing the other amazing qualities you have with a current partner. Sex will always come and go, but a well rounded and harmonious relationship can be rare. So, should you break up with your current girlfriend? I cannot answer that question, only you can. You seem young and maybe playing the field will help you answer some of these questions. You may break up with your current partner to pursue this other girl and realize later it was a HUGE mistake (and then it will be "too late to get her back"). All anybody here can say is to be honest with her, yourself, and please be kind. Having your cake and eating it too, at your current girlfriend's expense, is neither honest or kind (if you string her along while building an EA or PA with the other girl). Still, all of that being said, you will ALWAYS be attracted to other woman even when you "find the one". It is human nature and sometimes experience, maturity, and hindsight is necessary to fully comprehend what the best decision is/was. Sometimes we only miss what we had when it is gone. Edited November 29, 2012 by Training Revelations
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