freetolove Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 (edited) i met someone who's been beating around the bush a bit. we met at a networking event. we hung out twice and had fun each time. he texts me once or twice a week about completely random things and smiley faces (weird IMO). He's NOT a shy guy (works in sales), and he's in his late 30s. I want to ask him out BUT i have a feeling he might be seeing someone. If he is, he never brought her up. I think it's odd to ask him if he's seeing someone over text, what should I do? just text him or wait til the next time we hang out to ask? if might ask me to meet for some sort of work/business related event) btw when we do hang out he's pretty touchy. e.g. touch my arm, opens door for me, accidently brush against my back etc) Edited November 28, 2012 by freetolove
kelzeykaye Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I say text him asking to meet for coffee or lunch and if he agrees you can ask him then in person if he's seeing anyone! If he's not, then you should ask him to go out with you this weekend! 2
clia Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 If he wants to go out with you, he will ask you out. Do nothing. 1
six18 Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 engage in more conversation with text and see if he is someone you actually want to date. If he likes you he will ask you out. seems like he is testing the waters and trying to keep him on your mind. I think it is a good practice that if the guy is giving you signals and initiating text etc that if given enough signs he should be the one to do the asking out.
Treasa Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 If a guy really likes you, he'll ask you out. I have a couple different guys interested in me. I'm not particularly interested in them (and one is married - ugh), but they constantly ask me out. My dumbass ex? Hardly contacts me. That's why he's my ex. I don't want a guy who isn't crazy enough about me to make it perfectly clear that he wants me as his girlfriend.
pbjbear Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 i met someone who's been beating around the bush a bit. we met at a networking event. we hung out twice and had fun each time. he texts me once or twice a week about completely random things and smiley faces (weird IMO). He's NOT a shy guy (works in sales), and he's in his late 30s. I want to ask him out BUT i have a feeling he might be seeing someone. If he is, he never brought her up. I think it's odd to ask him if he's seeing someone over text, what should I do? just text him or wait til the next time we hang out to ask? if might ask me to meet for some sort of work/business related event) btw when we do hang out he's pretty touchy. e.g. touch my arm, opens door for me, accidently brush against my back etc) I would just ask him out. If you believe a man should do most of the chasing then dont, but this is what I would personally do. What is the worst that could happen? If he says no you have your answer and you dont have to worry anymore. Im not big on wondering about what ifs. Some men like when women show interest too.
pack4 Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 If he wants to go out with you, he will ask you out. Do nothing. not true. some guys don't really need to like a girl do ask her out, and some guy really like the girl but it's hard for them to show this. If she asks him out things can go better than expected.
NoMoreJerks Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 i met someone who's been beating around the bush a bit. we met at a networking event. we hung out twice and had fun each time. he texts me once or twice a week about completely random things and smiley faces (weird IMO). He's NOT a shy guy (works in sales), and he's in his late 30s. I want to ask him out BUT i have a feeling he might be seeing someone. If he is, he never brought her up. I think it's odd to ask him if he's seeing someone over text, what should I do? just text him or wait til the next time we hang out to ask? if might ask me to meet for some sort of work/business related event) btw when we do hang out he's pretty touchy. e.g. touch my arm, opens door for me, accidently brush against my back etc) He wants to shag you, that is all. Do not ask him out, IMO. Avoid this one. If he had wanted to, he would've asked you, since as you said, he is not the shy type.
NoMoreJerks Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 i guess if you don't want to keep wondering "what if I had asked him out," ask him out and see what happens -- but I would warn you that even if he is only interested in shagging you, he will likely pretend to be interested in dating you long enough for him to get into your pants. Be cautious, is my advice. 1
Author freetolove Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 this is sort of annoying/strange, so he tells me, "p.s. maybe it's time to go for hike", he didn't ask me to go for a hike. he just wrote the above after a work related email. I emailed him back asking if he wanted to go for a hike, he hasn't replied back. i'm totally confused.
jakoye Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 i met someone who's been beating around the bush a bit. we met at a networking event. we hung out twice and had fun each time. he texts me once or twice a week about completely random things and smiley faces (weird IMO). He's NOT a shy guy (works in sales), and he's in his late 30s. I want to ask him out BUT i have a feeling he might be seeing someone. If he is, he never brought her up. I think it's odd to ask him if he's seeing someone over text, what should I do? just text him or wait til the next time we hang out to ask? if might ask me to meet for some sort of work/business related event) btw when we do hang out he's pretty touchy. e.g. touch my arm, opens door for me, accidently brush against my back etc) I hate to be a Grinch here, but to me this sounds like he's in a relationship of some sort (which is why he hasn't asked you out), but he's attracted to you and is still "cultivating" you for two possible scenarios: 1) You will have sex with him even if you know he's in a relationship. or 2) His current relationship ends and he's then available to pursue you. If he is in a relationship, whether he'll dump her for you depends on how much more attractive you are compared to his current girl. I know, super-blunt, but I'm just telling you how guys think, especially guys who are relatively good-looking and have prospects (which is implied since he's in Sales (usually have to be reasonably good-looking to sell people stuff) and you said he wasn't shy (so there's no reason he shouldn't have asked you out by now)). 1
Author freetolove Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 possibly, true, I get a text in the middle of the night from him telling me that he's thinking about me...
Author freetolove Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 makes sense nomorejerk, only problem is i'm pretty turned on by him too. don't know him well enough to know if i like him or not. i was thinking about tearing his clothes off the first day i saw him lol
Tara247 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Free...Please. Please don't ask a man out. If a man wants to go out with you, there is nothing that will stop him. You said this guy isn't even shy or anything like that, so if he wants to go out with you, he'll ask. Don't chase him.
Author freetolove Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Tara, DAMN, you're so good, I was just about to call him too LOL alright, because of YOU, I'll hold onto my dignity for one more day =P
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