Kahleesi Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I feel like no one understands me and that makes me feel alone. I broke it off with my long term partner and then found out he has been living with another woman. I think deep down I knew something was up but choose to ignore the signs for my family's sake and deep down I never wanted to feel the pain of infidelity again. After the initial breakup I was great motivate, happy and had a sense of impowerment. I never thought I would leave him all I've ever know is him and he has been my drug of choice for over a decade, in saying that I'm only 27. My drug my habit my whole life revolved around him and his needs and happiness. Now I feel this void like a huge black hole is opening up I side me. My head tells me I've done the right thing he can't be faithful he can't love me the way I deserve but my heart wants only him. How do you move on from here? How can you still want someone who hurts you? Is there a day when you wake up and don't care? How can he just move on to another like I'm nothing to him? Does he not feel the pain of a life now gone? Did he never love me? How can someone who declares such love and devotion then hurt you the most? How do you support a child thru a heartbreak when you are heartbroken?
Chico333 Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 My best advice is to surround yourself with supportive people and do things that make you feel happy. Do things with your child that make the both of you happy. It is a hard and sad time. I am going through the same thing. You know what is best for you but yet you yearn for what is comfortable. It's not a quick transition but hold in there! You can do it. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 A friend of mine went through a terrible divorce four years ago. One of the darkest, most difficult times in her life. She had two small children to care for. She rebuilt her circle of friends and got a puppy. That puppy was a lifesaver for her. He really helped her. She's now remarried to an incredible guy, and is the happiest I've ever seen her. (I've been friends with her and her ex since grad school.) Consider counseling, join a divorce support group. With time it will get better, and you'll reclaim your life and your joy back. Seems difficult while you're hurting, but you'll get there. Best!
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