prapti Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 Hi all! I am new to loveshack. I am right now clueless, I am happy with my life but I have one quick question. I went out with a boy for 3 consecutive weeks, in my head as a friend. I didn't have any feelings for him except he is a nice person. But after the 3rd week, we said to each other we like each other and kissed. Following weekend, we go out but everything was sort of different. Although he said he liked me a lot. After that whenever we see we were "flirting" for another say 3 weeks. But he never asked me out again. I suggested doing things, cause I genuinely care for him as a friend and person..and if things happened they happened right? Well he has rejected me politely always. So I asked: what's going on? He said, I think we should better be friends. I said OK after all....friendship is the basis of all! Now, the problem here is now I really like him, and I am not being a natural person with him. If I want to call him I don't, and I keep myself busy not to think of a possibility with him. He says I have qualities he looks for in a girl. But, how do I become closer to him, without scaring him away. I want to get to know him better. Right now I stop myself, to respect his decision, after all who wants to be clingy right? After the conversation we have gone out once, and talked over the phone once as friends. And we avoid the topic. Now, how can I tell if he still likes me? What should I do? Move on? Talk to him again? Flirt with him till he goes bananas? Make him jealous? I am sort of clueless...any cool suggestion from both girls and guys out there? I don't want to idealize him, but this situation is making me do so.... Thanks!
kellyp1 Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 I would let it go. If he tells you he just wants to be friends he is not really interested. I would rather get that than the I really like you but don't have time to be a boyfriend now. The friend line is more honest than most approaches. There are plenty of other great people out there, keep looking because you never know where you will find the right one.
chicasha Posted August 12, 2004 Posted August 12, 2004 I don't know what to tell you, mainly because I'm in a very similar situation with a guy, myself. This guy pursued me for a few weeks until I finally accepted to meet up with him. It wasn't even a date, because the first time we met, I had a couple friends come with me (I had met him through Friendster...even tho he's not a total stranger, as we have mutual friends, I still thought it would be a better idea if I met him in a social setting, for the first time). We hit it off immediately, and my friends thought I should definitely go out with him. We went out a few more times, and every time we've had a great time, and we are really compatible. I've since told him how I feel.....and even though he still calls me, he has stopped asking me out. We still talk on the phone, and are still incredibly compatible about a lot of different things, and definitely attracted to eachother.....but at this point, I don't know what is going on, or why he stopped asking me out. I know I should probably ask him at some point. We were supposed to hang out last week, but he came down with a bad cold. Either that.......or that's his polite way of saying he didn't want to see me? I don't know though.....because he will call me from his job to say hi...etc. Ugh..i really have no idea. I just want to see him, so he knows that I genuinely care about him. But.......really, what else is there for me to do? Guys really confuse the hell out of me. I just feel like giving up sometimes :-( It really sucks when its a guy that you really like....because you feel totally helpless, because you can't be too pushy and drive them away forever. ITs just frustrating when 2 people are compatible, are attracted to eachother, have a good time, are from similar backgrounds, etc......ie, they are a GOOD match.......but only 1 person is motivated enough for a relationship. Ugh......
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