momo81 Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I've been with my boyfriend for a year. I am 31 and he is 26. He is currently a student at University and is nearing the end of his paper. I work in the health industry and have got myself a great career and am happy where I am in life. I've allowed him to use my car to get him to and from University and his placements for the last year. I have not minded this, I'm a gfriend helping her bfriend out. I have also put him up for the last three months as his last flat he found unbearable to live in so now he's at mine. When my boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend, i said yes, knowing that he was an university student - along with that comes stress about exams, placement, money etc. So I knew that stress levels would be high at some point. Little did I know that he would be so obvlious to how his stress has affected me. For the last two months, it has been so tense with his exam sitting and trying to find a job (he has had rejection letter, after rejection letter), that we have been so tense and therefore fighting. He comes from a family of yellers, I come from a quiet family. So, to him, it is normal to communicate by yelling and swearing. Don't get me wrong, I have been a right cow at some points, opening my mouth too many times and saying whats on my mind, in return, sparking heated arguments. But it has gotten to a point now, that when i try to tell him a concern, he gets so angry with me, starts calling me names and putting me down. I asked him why is he so angry, i'm just telling you how I FEEL? and he yelled that i was attacking him, "i'm just like his father and attacking attacking attacking". I was talking about my feelings, so I wasn't attacking him. Now, if I were to be honest, I would say taht I feel like he doesn't like me. I have tried breaking up with him but he thought I was just emotionally upset and stayed. I just don't feel that he likes me and it hurts and I feel like a fool, but I don't have any EVIDENCE, i'm doing what he says and "ASSUMING". I don't feel like a great person in this relationship, but I don't know if thats just me over reacting to all the negativity. Do i just not care as much, or do i continue being me and care too much. Like I said, I'm not the best gfriend out there, i've said things and opened up my mouth too many times. But, I can say, I do not make him feel like he makes me feel.. I feel like I have done so many nice things and been a good girlfriend, but he's just taken it all for granted..... Another thing he does, is he talks bad about me to his mates. NOw, he has a bad rep for talking bad about people and I have taught him how its not good and usually he will come out looking like the bad person. HOwever, it came back to me that he talked bad about me to two of his friends (who initially thought I was lovely). I feel hurt and betrayed and confused. Confused because its normal to vent to a good friend about things, but not go to the degree he did. It all sounds so bad all written down. He is a lovely guy, he has a great heart, we've just got a rough patch at the moment. And I've probably answered my own mind here...... but I really don't want to end until we've given it a good proper shot.
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