dpc1192 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Okay so I'm in college and have been dating a girl off an on for about a year. We went about 9 months straight and then she broke up with me, I turned into a big jerk to her and had ridiculous expectactions. She is everything to me, I love her, I think of her constantly, but was bad at showing her this before. Since we've been back together off and on, she said at first she cried whenever she saw a picture of me with another girl.. Last week before break everything was good, we were taking it slow and enjoying the time together. Well since I've been back she's saying she doesn't know what she want's and wants to take Christmas break to take time to think to herself and figure out 100 percent if she wants to be with me or not. But she still texts me all the time and wants me in her life I know this. I don't know if it's a control thing or what.. Any advice ?? please I really want this girl back and will do whatever it takes !
Author dpc1192 Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 she always gets super moody when shes PMSing.. I'd say her period is about a week away now and it's always a cycle. She gets super moody questions her feelings at this time then in a week or so she'll be back to wanting to be together.
Author dpc1192 Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 i mean should i just ignore her till after break and see what she has to say?
todreaminblue Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 pms can be horrible for some women and girls i live in a house with three daughters and we cycle together...nightmare city i tell ya.....explain to her honestly that you are sorry for the way you treated her before that you truly regret making her feel bad or insecure, that its different now and you realise how much you care for her..... say you dont want to take a break you want to work things out together but if she needs to take that break you accept that....and then if you truly care for her and do love her....pray and have hope that she believes what you have said..... if you do love her,you will wait for her however long it takes for her to be sure.....do not though get into a habit of accepting break up make ups.....you dont quit on someone you love over and over again....you go through it together and when you call time out.....it should be because you are not getting back together...otherwise time out becomes a tool of control and submission...no single person has a right to control anyone by manipulation or coerce someone into feeling badly....so if she4 does decide to give it a go .....make sure it is a go and not a stop go stop go stop go then you have to call stop ....best wishes....deb
Author dpc1192 Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 she said she will know 100 percent once she takes her time to herself at home which is very far away. shes been very homesick. i've sent her texts like that before, like i said we've been through this alot. a big problem she says is we take it slow and then soon enough it feels like we are right back into it. so this next time is all or nothing i think, which is probably best. but she still is so flirty with me and i've had this happen before, generally i lay off her and be sweet, and in a few weeks she's back to wanting me. the thing is i know she still likes me, but she says she's stuck and doesn't know what she wants, like she's moving on but still seeing me so she's at a standstill and needs to figure things out. I don't care what we call it or what it is, but i know we belong together and i know she used to love me dearly and failed to recognize it. I have to work on trust and support, and know I can be amazing to her, but she says at this point it's past that. anymore advice would be very very appreciated!!!!
Author dpc1192 Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 another thing is I know she hasn't been with anyone else since the "breakup". she's not the type to hookup randomly with guys, and always was chasing me around at the beginning and I truly wasn't interested. but now I'm the one who is trying to get her back, I LOVE HER. funny how life works out sometimes.
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