Do Men Want Relationships?

[ThaWholigan]

Go back and read my description of beauty. Liking size variety in boobs or height does NOT diverse taste make.

 

Yes, the girls you posted were "bigger," in that they weren't skinny, but they still had shapely legs, a defined butt, and a small waist.

*sigh* You're determined to mock/insult me today.....

 

It is NOT the same. My tastes aren't as conventional, I have liked girls with a much bigger waist, and without a "defined" butt. You don't necessarily need those things to be hot. I've said that more than once. Even look at Samantha 38G. She doesn't have a skinny waist at all, but she's still hot.

[ThaWholigan]

I do know that.

 

In fact you supported my statement.

 

Him thinking she's hot shows that most guys don't approach a gal they find ugly.

Of course, nobody is going to date someone they aren't attracted to at all - but that doesn't mean that they are all attracted to the same things.

[Treasa]

ThaWholigan, I just have to say that whenever I see that picture of Daniel Bryan, I start giggling like a idiot. So thanks a lot.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

"I just don't know what to do. There are a couple of sisters I want to try out; one has great big tits and the other one has an ass to die for, and I'm really torn here. Maybe I'll do 'em both. But that would take time away from my throat-f*cking porn, and that's a bummer. And how the hell am I going to fit in calling Verzn a "fatso" and laughing at her when she walks by?? Dammit. :("

 

I said it was a sincere question. Why do you have to be so mean all the time?

[pbjbear]

*sigh* You're determined to mock/insult me today.....

 

It is NOT the same. My tastes aren't as conventional, I have liked girls with a much bigger waist, and without a "defined" butt. You don't necessarily need those things to be hot. I've said that more than once. Even look at Samantha 38G. She doesn't have a skinny waist at all, but she's still hot.

 

You mean you dont like big butts??? Oh no...I have no chance with you now.

[verhrzn]

*sigh* You're determined to mock/insult me today.....

 

It is NOT the same. My tastes aren't as conventional, I have liked girls with a much bigger waist, and without a "defined" butt. You don't necessarily need those things to be hot. I've said that more than once. Even look at Samantha 38G. She doesn't have a skinny waist at all, but she's still hot.

 

Okay, you have a very bizarre idea of what is a "defined waist." A defined waist is if it's significantly smaller (as in, greater than 5 inches) from her waist to her hips.

 

... Which hers is.

[Emilia]

I take most everything at face value. It's worthless to do otherwise, because I am not a mind reader and I can go round and round and round on people's motivations until I'm blue in the face.

 

 

People's behaviour is governed by different kinds of motivation, often to conceal the real feeling or reasoning behind a particular action. If you don't understand that, you will never be able to discern what is likely to be a real feeling and what is something that's a pretend or a game.

 

If you are not able to put yourself in another person's shoes, that has a huge impact on how you perceive others around you and how much you understand them. This affects your perspective negatively - as we can see from your threads. People rarely express themselves very directly, partly due to lack of trust, partly as they often don't understand themselves. This is something that is very important to understand. This is something we all get better at understanding as we grow and mature as people.

 

I'm not sure where the distortion comes from but this is definitely a problem. You don't understand people around you.

[Treasa]

I said it was a sincere question. Why do you have to be so mean all the time?

 

I thought it was funny, actually. I laughed.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

I'd rather men play the field and keep their options open(until he finds a woman hes really crazy about)instead getting into BS relationships lying to women that they love them when they're only with them for convenience or its the best he can do at the moment

 

We only get one or the other as an option????

[udolipixie]

Of course, nobody is going to date someone they aren't attracted to at all - but that doesn't mean that they are all attracted to the same things.

 

Nowhere did I state, suggest, or imply it so I'm unsure why you're telling me this.

[Treasa]

Okay, you have a very bizarre idea of what is a "defined waist." A defined waist is if it's significantly smaller (as in, greater than 5 inches) from her waist to her hips.

 

... Which hers is.

 

Trust me...guys aren't going, "Her waist is only four inches smaller than her hips, so I don't find it defined, therefore I don't find her attractive."

 

Women think about this stuff way too much. Find your own inner and outer beauty, own it, and love the hell out of yourself.

[verhrzn]

Trust me...guys aren't going, "Her waist is only four inches smaller than her hips, so I don't find it defined, therefore I don't find her attractive."

 

Women think about this stuff way too much. Find your own inner and outer beauty, own it, and love the hell out of yourself.

 

No, they arne't thinking about it CONSCIOUSLY, but that doesn't mean they don't still notice it. Studies have found the most attractive waist-hip ratio is a .6-.7.

[ThaWholigan]

You mean you dont like big butts??? Oh no...I have no chance with you now.

I certainly do like big butts, a lot. But they are certainly not a requirement for me to think you are hot. As I've said, I've met girls who didn't have all that and just by the way they expressed and carried themselves, I found them attractive and thought about them differently.

 

Contrast that with some of the "hottest" women I've met who I wouldn't even have sex with let alone date because of other things beyond their appearance. I have a broad range of what I find attractive, and so do a lot of guys I know. Just like a lot of women I know too, even if they find a conventionally hot guy with 6 pack abs attractive, they might find a normal guy attractive just off of how he carries himself that resonates with who they are.

 

This black and white sh*t serves nobody, it only serves to make either women look like sh*tty people or, as in this thread, make men look like all-round sh*tty people. That's why I'm insulted by this thread.

[Treasa]

*facepalm*

 

I have huge boobs. I have hardly ANY hips and NO butt. I've never had a problem attracting guys. I didn't have a problem attracting guys when I was overweight. I'm sexy, I've always been sexy, and a lot of guys are smart enough to notice it.

[verhrzn]

People's behaviour is governed by different kinds of motivation, often to conceal the real feeling or reasoning behind a particular action. If you don't understand that, you will never be able to discern what is likely to be a real feeling and what is something that's a pretend or a game.

 

If you are not able to put yourself in another person's shoes, that has a huge impact on how you perceive others around you and how much you understand them. This affects your perspective negatively - as we can see from your threads. People rarely express themselves very directly, partly due to lack of trust, partly as they often don't understand themselves. This is something that is very important to understand. This is something we all get better at understanding as we grow and mature as people.

 

I'm not sure where the distortion comes from but this is definitely a problem. You don't understand people around you.

 

Well no ****ing duh. Tell me something I DON'T know. I have never understood the people around me. That's WHY I create these threads, that's why I've always created these threads.

 

I can put myself in people's shoes when they explain situations to me, but I am not a mind-reader. And again, I don't see the point of figuring out the motivation of people who are mean to me. They are mean to me because they don't like me. Why is it any necessary to go deeper?

[AD1980]

I love these men bashing threads as if all men are shallow or evil and women are innocent vicitms

 

Most people i know in relationships who cheated or act inappropriately are WOMEN obviously it doesnt mean all women are like this the point is both genders are equally as ****ed up stop making women vicitims

 

As far as looks dont go there either people of both genders are equally as shallow.As ive posted on here my friend is arrogant borderline narcisistic women say that about him to me then the next minute laugh at his dumb jokes and overly flirt with him while women i know all call me a gentleman great guy etc and i never get women

 

Good looking people get treated better with both genders nothing you or i can do about it but its not just men save your bs with that because im not buying it

[Lonely Ronin]

I think it says I'm observant of how the couple he was jealous of had one partner being more attentive than the other.

 

Nice spin though.

 

Yeah what does it say about me that I think it's possible he wants an adoring partner when he's jealous of a couple with an adoring partner......

 

O please, Everyone wants an adoring partner. What you did was twist what he said into him wanting a woman who will shower affection on him while he does nothing. That's pretty damn presumptuous assertion to base on a 2 or 3 short paragraph post.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Probably from the majority of male fantasies, envied lifestyles, porn, and paradises being described as having lots of skinny yet curvy hot gals with no flaws.

 

This is actually a very fair point.

 

On this thread a lot of guys are getting all defensive because women have the audacity to point out the reality of the fantasy mediums that most cater to men.

 

Then, in about another day there will be a thread to the guys about who their fantasy woman is and you will get like 50 guys posting pictures of women they stockpiled on their computers that either are pornstarr or women no older then 25.

[Treasa]

...whoa, you are a little insecure. I never said I was gorgeous, and I've certainly had my turns in life where I look like I've been beaten by the ugly stick. However, I still carried myself like I was of value, which I am, and I never had a problem getting a guy.

 

You are seriously projecting. Your issues come from your own mind. No understanding in the world of men is going to help that.

[verhrzn]

...whoa, you are a little insecure. I never said I was gorgeous, and I've certainly had my turns in life where I look like I've been beaten by the ugly stick. However, I still carried myself like I was of value, which I am, and I never had a problem getting a guy.

 

You are seriously projecting. Your issues come from your own mind. No understanding in the world of men is going to help that.

 

And you're majorly contradicting yourself.

 

"I'm sexy, I'm always been sexy, I've never had trouble attracting guys."

 

Then guess what... you've never been ugly. If you can attract guys, you are not ugly.

 

Until you've been the equivalent to me... ugly and insulted your entire life... you can take your judgments somewhere else. You don't know what it's like to be ugly, you don't know what it's like to NEVER have someone be attracted to you, so save the Preaching to the Choir about how sexy and amazing you are for some other thread.

[Treasa]

OK, last post before I have to get ready for work. When I said overweight, I mean seriously overweight. As in, 120 pounds overweight. And yet I STILL could get guys.

 

Yeah, it's really shocking that even fat girls who are lovely and sexy and who have awesome personalities can get guys... </sarcasm>

 

Like I said before, find your own INNER and outer beauty, own it, and love the hell out of yourself.

[Emilia]

Well no ****ing duh. Tell me something I DON'T know. I have never understood the people around me. That's WHY I create these threads, that's why I've always created these threads.

 

I can put myself in people's shoes when they explain situations to me, but I am not a mind-reader. And again, I don't see the point of figuring out the motivation of people who are mean to me. They are mean to me because they don't like me. Why is it any necessary to go deeper?

 

If they don't, likely it's probably because you have a huge disconnect since most people understand them, except you.

 

They probably have all sorts of s**t going on in their lives but you are not able to comprehend that and you think it's about you. More than likely they don't care about you to be fair and you are reading too much into it since you don't get it. You don't get them.

 

These threads will not help you. You need professional help because there is some dissonance in you that you are not able to deal with only by yourself. No amount of posting about ThaWholigan's taste in women will fix the fact that you are not able to communicate people around you.

[Imported]

 

Are you honestly arguing a guy will choose an ugly woman with a good personality over a hot woman with a good personality??

 

Generally, if a guy can get a "hot" woman, it is probably the norm for him. He is not making a choice of going for a girl that is hot, but not really connecting with personality wise or going for a girl he really connects with on a personal level...but he thinks she is ugly. That is not real life, unless you live in Bazaaro World. Which I think you do.

[Revolver]

We only get one or the other as an option????

 

What do you mean only one or the other?

 

If men stopped settling women wouldn't be able to complain that guys "upgraded" later for his ideal woman. I've heard many women complain about this

[udolipixie]

O please, Everyone wants an adoring partner. What you did was twist what he said into him wanting a woman who will shower affection on him while he does nothing. That's pretty damn presumptuous assertion to base on a 2 or 3 short paragraph post.

 

The only twisting and presumptuous assertion was done by you.

 

Nowhere did I state, suggest, or imply he wants a gal to shower him affection on him while he does nothing.

 

Show me where I said he wants to be showered with affection while he does nothing..

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Oh that's right you can't because in none of my posts do I state he wants this while he does nothing.

 

In fact I made no mention of his action.

Possibly you were kinda jealous of that couple because you want some adoring partner to placate and pander to your ego. Telling how your example was of a gal trying to get her partner's attention while the guy is seemingly blase about it.