LoveHurts88 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 So my ex tells me she was doing better before and now shes a mess.. Theres another guy involved.. So why would she even tell me that? I told her im not waiting for sh*t when theres another guy involved. Is this a case of GIGS? I am going NC.
Chi townD Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Not a whole hellva lot to go on. But, my guess is that she was looking for an ego stroke. Someone to tell her that things will be okay and that you'll ALWAYS be there for a shoulder to lean on. My guess is that's what she was looking for. Good for you for not giving it to her. And I don't understand why you weren't in NC in the first place.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 Not a whole hellva lot to go on. But, my guess is that she was looking for an ego stroke. Someone to tell her that things will be okay and that you'll ALWAYS be there for a shoulder to lean on. My guess is that's what she was looking for. Good for you for not giving it to her. And I don't understand why you weren't in NC in the first place. Why does she need me to do that when she has another guy? I was in nc but i broke it. Its so hard.. But im going NC again
Chi townD Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Why does she need me to do that when she has another guy? I was in nc but i broke it. Its so hard.. But im going NC again Because she'll have the best of both worlds. She gets her emotional needs filled by you and the physical needs filled by the other guy. Yeah dude, NC and heal. NC is hard but you're just like any other person that's addicted to drugs. You need to take it one day at a time. Just make it through the day without any contact. Sure, you'll think about her throughout the day, just like drug addicts that are getting clean think about the drugs all day. BUT! at the end of it, they didn't use and you didn't call. Each day WILL get better and better and just like the addict that is detoxing, the drugs are working out of their systems. You're working her out of your system. Then, one day you're going to wake up, and she won't be the first thing on your mind. THAT'S when you know you're starting to heal!
CptSaveAho Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 So my ex tells me she was doing better before and now shes a mess.. Theres another guy involved.. So why would she even tell me that? I told her im not waiting for sh*t when theres another guy involved. Is this a case of GIGS? I am going NC. people in GIGS are full of crap. everything that comes out of their mouth is equatable to hot air... just ignore it
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