BBB08 Posted August 8, 2004 Posted August 8, 2004 Ok me and my girlfriend broke up. She initiated it. I chased for a little while, gave up and started to move on. And now when ever she talks to me, its about what happend to her. " I got a scholarship" i did this. Why does she just talk just when she wants to make her self look good. Why does this happen.
simplybrill Posted August 8, 2004 Posted August 8, 2004 She's doing this, telling you her progress - to show you that she's happy and successful without you and that you dont dictate her happiness after all. You must have hurt her a lot man. OR she could be saying these things to give you a heads up on how her life's going in general, like she would any of her other friends. It doesnt sound like she's doing it to be hurtful, she's allowed to have good things happen in her life. Try being happy for her. Maybe a reason she broke up with you, was because you saw the good things that were happening in her life as "pointless" (your word not mine)
Author BBB08 Posted August 8, 2004 Author Posted August 8, 2004 She actually hurt me. And i stopped contact, and i understand telling me events in her life but after weeks of no contact. Its out of the blue.
simplybrill Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 Well it always hurts when someone breaks up with you, I've definitely been there and im sorry if my last post was a bit insesetive to that. Im sure you would rather have a clean break and not have the person who broke up with you contacting you just to update you on their life. For all she knows, you still want to be with her. Maybe the next time she calls to give you an update on her life, you should say - listen, I dont know why you're calling me like this and I would appreciate it if you didnt call me anymore. Wish her well in her life and future relationships and leave it at that. Dont let her bait you into an argument, and you'll come out feeling better for not having insulted her, and taking the higher road.
LoveBear Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 I feel she may be doing this because she doesn't want you to forget about her. Maybe she realizes how important you were to her and she just wants to come around every so often so that you don't forget about her. She may be trying to remain friends with you. She may be trying to keep you in her life because she wants you as a friend. She doesn't want you totally out of her life. You need to ask her why she's doing this. What her intentions are. If you don't want her in your life (sometimes it's easier than "just being friends") you need to tell her. If you do, let her know that you need more time before you can consider this, and you'll contact her when you're ready.
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