lovebug1234 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 the last time I hung out with him, I hinted that I was sexually attracted to him (in a flirty, polite way). from his reaction, he was flattered and seemed want to progress. then he stopped calling/texting. WTF, this is the second guy who did this to ME??? I'm 30 and both of these guys are in the mid 40s, they both pretty hot and they know it. WHY NOT just have SEX??? I didn't ask for anything more then that.
Shaun-Dro Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 the last time I hung out with him, I hinted that I was sexually attracted to him (in a flirty, polite way). from his reaction, he was flattered and seemed want to progress. then he stopped calling/texting. WTF, this is the second guy who did this to ME??? I'm 30 and both of these guys are in the mid 40s, they both pretty hot and they know it. WHY NOT just have SEX??? I didn't ask for anything more then that. I'm almost at a lost for words on this one. Um...let's see...maybe these guys aren't attracted to you enough?
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 first guy was flirting for about 3 years. 2nd guy, he came after me first, asked me out to dinner, then kissed me on cheek. all this just to be "friends"?? with no sex?
musemaj11 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Men want women as sex objects, but they dont want to be the sex objects themselves.
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 yah, i don't see myself in relationships with either of these guys. but damn, they are so damn HOT.
mesmerized Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 first guy was flirting for about 3 years. 2nd guy, he came after me first, asked me out to dinner, then kissed me on cheek. all this just to be "friends"?? with no sex? They're older men, not really as horny and ready to go as younger ones. Maybe they didn't like that you wereforward about it. How many dates you had been on with them before this happens?
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 guy #2, it was our 3 time hanging out.
freetolove Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 maybe he has a small dick? or he can't get it up? 1
LittlePrince Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Maybe they want a woman who is a little more chaste that doesn't start demanding sex after only three dates.
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 (edited) small dick, hmm very much can be the reason, btw, i didn't "demand" sex. just flirted, not to mention, plenty of men wanting to jump into bed after 1 date, so it's not like me being sexually attracted to him is out of the ordinary, we're grown ups, not 14 year old kids. Edited November 27, 2012 by lovebug1234
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 (edited) Because when it's too easy it's suspicious! Once you let a guy know you are interested and available....chase = over. So if that's all they were after, and felt like there was going to be some kind of "challenge" to it...but you're basically like hey let's play naked patty cake...then they can be like...meeehhhh, well I'm not THAT interested...now you want it, so that's kinda like work, now I just have to make an effort, there's no mystery behind the curtain anymore. Plus if these guys are "hot" as you say, and if you're just "ok" (in which I'd have to judge personally or hear the judgment of an honest man as women can overestimate their attractiveness)...well you're not that much of a commodity now are you? Plus as a man you don't understand how it is...a lot of women think they can get any man they want and do a little trickery and make you theirs. A lot of women see themselves as this "special" thing. So for some men that's not always an appealing offer, especially if we're not that into you and don't really agree with your whole personal self-assessment and entitlement trip (if you've got one, just saying). And then if you talk to most guys, they're thinking....then you gotta worry about if she likes you and then wants to see you all the time, it's never just that easy and no strings attached...there's always a catch. And then some guys will get pissed off if you don't chase them around because they like to feel like hot stuff because that's what women do, they want you to pursue them. So if a woman does this to a guy, it's just normal and she's not that into him. Yet if a guy does this it means what to you? I mean just because men will stick their thing into a lot of things, doesn't mean they're going to be willing to put the effort, especially if there are some other romantic interests they are more into...because like I said, unless you make it super easy for a guy, not all men are going to take a stab at your vagina, it still takes work and guys are generally lazy Plus men are concerned with STD's, pregnancy, as there is always a risk and they may not know what you're about or your agenda. After all maybe you do this with a lot of men, who's to say really, men don't know these things...women can play it conservative and yet been all over town, so it's always a risk too. You could be a clinger or a psycho, or something like that, how are they supposed to know...so if they are a responsible guy it's not always just a simple thing. Edited November 27, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
SJC2008 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 How direct were you with your "flirting" ? Sometimes a woman will think she's throwing herself at a man but he doesn't even realize.
runningfar Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Some men really do not like girls who are too direct in that area. Especially older men. I have some friends who have ended things with women who wanted to progress too fast because they felt it wasn't classy and was not what they were into.
AlexDP Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Plus as a man you don't understand how it is...a lot of women think they can get any man they want and do a little trickery and make you theirs. A lot of women see themselves as this "special" thing. So for some men that's not always an appealing offer, especially if we're not that into you and don't really agree with your whole personal self-assessment and entitlement trip (if you've got one, just saying). 9/10 it's this. And yeah, it's fun.
aMguilts Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 9/10 it's this. And yeah, it's fun. so why bother going on `dates` with her?? I agree dates are meant to be fun. OP i reckon you are just too good for him. He got scared for whatever reason , and when it came down to it, he couldn`t handle it. After 3 dates thou... you never saw ANY flags??
aMguilts Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Some men really do not like girls who are too direct in that area. Especially older men. I have some friends who have ended things with women who wanted to progress too fast because they felt it wasn't classy and was not what they were into. i agree with that totally, but after going out with her 3 times and then the `situation` arises? If an `older` guy is that insecure about himself, he should of been honest from the start ? why string ppl along?
Imported Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 If you're an over 40 man, especially if never married, women think you're "hot" and you've been flirting with a girl for 3 ****ing years, it is possible you might see her as more than a ****. Try to date her, be sweet, get to know her and she rebukes all those types of advances because as it turns out all she wants is to suck a cock and ****....the guy might even be insulted. He wasn't good enough for her to consider a relationship with and maybe that was what he wanted. That has to get on your nerves that some girl doesn't think you're good enough to date. You know, guys might be insulted that all you want from them is sex too. Maybe he might have been around the women falling over with legs spread block a few times and was hoping for something more.
Imported Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 (edited) Some men really do not like girls who are too direct in that area. Especially older men. I have some friends who have ended things with women who wanted to progress too fast because they felt it wasn't classy and was not what they were into. Yes, how does a guy think he deserves a girl that doesn't just **** everything....because what guy wants to be married to a precieved public slut? He'll probably grow some moral fiber at some point and practice what he preach. Which is going to include saying no to easy unattached sex. i agree with that totally, but after going out with her 3 times and then the `situation` arises? If an `older` guy is that insecure about himself, he should of been honest from the start ? why string ppl along? Probably because he thought they were dating and it was going somewhere and on the third date, it becomes obvious to him he was wrong, at which point he broke it off. Would think, he was the one actually being "honest" from the start. Edited November 27, 2012 by Imported
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 just got a text from him saying hi, maybe he just moves REALLY slow? he's pretty extroverted and generally doesn't seem like the type of guy to commit. He goes out a lot and is pretty charismatic. I don't see him as a guy who's looking for a relationship hence why I decided on SEX instead of relationship with him
freetolove Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 why don't you just ask him where he disappears off to?
Neith Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I'm almost at a lost for words on this one. Um...let's see...maybe these guys aren't attracted to you enough? This..............
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