lovebug1234 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 this is interesting, this is the first time a guy ever asked me to meet at a bar. i always hear about this but have never actually been asked to hang out at a bar. what do you think?
Balzac Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Depends on the type if bar actually. Sports Bar not so much.
GirlontheLam Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 I invite people to meet at a bar. It is meaningless for me. I would pick a tea place as my first choice....but that is a bit niche. A bar is a good de facto place for me. Now there is of course a subset of losers who think bar = hookup. [These are the same guys who will encourage you to keep on drinking through out the night] Just keep your drinking in check and have a good time. **I have low tolerance, so I rarely have more than 1 drink.
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 i ended turning him down even though he sounded like a nice guy, i just think meeting at a bar is horribly pathetic. i was actually quite offended but it seems to be quite prevalent in pop culture to meet there. oh well
NoMoreJerks Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 i ended turning him down even though he sounded like a nice guy, i just think meeting at a bar is horribly pathetic. i was actually quite offended but it seems to be quite prevalent in pop culture to meet there. oh well huh? why is it pathetic??? bars where i live are places where friends go to hang out and have a little chat... i've gone to bars with men before... it doesn't mean anything bad...
GirlontheLam Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 huh? why is it pathetic??? bars where i live are places where friends go to hang out and have a little chat... i've gone to bars with men before... it doesn't mean anything bad... Seriously. OMG I invited a college friend to meet up for happy hour this week! So weird! 1
Mr Scorpio Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 i ended turning him down even though he sounded like a nice guy, i just think meeting at a bar is horribly pathetic. i was actually quite offended but it seems to be quite prevalent in pop culture to meet there. oh well Horribly pathetic? Pop culture? To each their own I suppose, but did you just leave an Amish community?
IT Geek Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 i ended turning him down even though he sounded like a nice guy, i just think meeting at a bar is horribly pathetic. i was actually quite offended but it seems to be quite prevalent in pop culture to meet there. oh well Pathetic? From what I've seen, most women would prefer to meet someone over coffee or a drink before investing time in a longer, more intimate date like dinner. IMHO, the guy did nothing wrong.
mammasita Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 HA - I prefer to meet at a bar!! Not a loud music meat market bar, but a restaurant bar is always a great option.....especially during happy hour. 2
LittlePrince Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 All great relationships start in bars. Funny how bars, the modern day saloon, is still the place to go to hookup with women involved in the skin trade.
Andy_K Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Virtually every single first date I've had has involved meeting at a pub/bar. I put this down to cultural differences. We British are a nation of alcoholics so we meet up for a drink, whereas Americans (who seem to dominate these forums) are a nation of lardballs so always meet up for dinner instead. The French probably meet up for a strike or something. 1
LittlePrince Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Virtually every single first date I've had has involved meeting at a pub/bar. I put this down to cultural differences. We British are a nation of alcoholics so we meet up for a drink, whereas Americans (who seem to dominate these forums) are a nation of lardballs so always meet up for dinner instead. The French probably meet up for a strike or something. But aren't there a lot of British towns where the only place to eat is a pub?
movingon12 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 My first date with my husband was in a bar. Actually most of my first dates have been - I'd prefer it, its far more relaxed and it's much easier to leave if things aren't going well compared to 'dinner and a movie'.
LittlePrince Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Never got the relaxed impression from a bar.
henderson14 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 I do it all the time if were just "meeting."
GirlontheLam Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Virtually every single first date I've had has involved meeting at a pub/bar. I put this down to cultural differences. We British are a nation of alcoholics so we meet up for a drink, whereas Americans (who seem to dominate these forums) are a nation of lardballs so always meet up for dinner instead. The French probably meet up for a strike or something. Don't like meeting for dinner first, unless I already know I am going to have plenty to talk about with a person, and we have enough chemistry to survive 2 hours. Strangers? Um, no way! Very rarely.
Jethro Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 A bar is a fantastic place to meet if you are both adults and neither is an alcoholic. Going to dinner is not good for a first meet because it can be hours of awkwardness until the meal is over. A drink can be 15 minutes.
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