I filed for divorce

[lynngv]

I filed for divorce this morning and it was the best option for me.My husband Mikey and I have been seperated for 5 monthes.I could not take the abuse he put me through,the cheating on me with other women and putting me down anymore.Last fight resulted in him going to jail,threw a plate at me with a gash on my forehead.My husband comes home on Saturday and he is going to get the news.I am going to tell him to pack his things and leave also serving the divorce papers.We were married for 8 years and I went through hell for the last 3 years for what he has done to me.Luckily I have a good divorce lawyer,talked to him today and I trust him very well.

[pteromom]

Sounds like the best option in this situation.

[Balzac]

It seems odd that there is no protective order. If he is in jail for domestic violence, he really should not be in contact with you. Has your lawyer explained this to you?

 

Other arrangements must be made for him to obtain his property from the house.

[lynngv]

He served his time in jail,domestic violence serving 30 days in jail and he did plea guilty to domestic violence.We seperated right after he got out of jail,did this in front of the judge.We talked that we needed our seperate time.My lawyer explained everything today when I saw him.Said other arrangements needed to be made to pickup his property.

[Balzac]

"My husband comes home on Saturday and he is going to get the news.I am going to tell him to pack his things and leave also serving the divorce papers."

 

My concern and reason for asking is the statement you wrote. After your meeting when your attorney explained it. Generally the order covers ANY communication, other than through a lawyer or law enforcement. Phone calls, emails, notes, messages through family, friends, neighbors, all prohibited.

 

Is he serving a period of probation?

Edited November 27, 2012 by Balzac
Maintain your safety.

[lynngv]

He was put on probation too,3 monthes and that is over.My lawyer covered the communication which is prohibited including emails,phone calls,messages through family and friends,neighbors too.

[Balzac]

This is a huge step in the right direction for you. Congratulations for removing yourself from the abuse.

[amaysngrace]

Aren't you scared that he'll try to hurt you when you tell him to pack up and leave? I'm scared for you.

[amaysngrace]

Wouldn't it be better to box up his stuff, set it outside and change the locks?

 

I wouldn't let him in the house. He may go ballistic.

[Balzac]

She cannot tell him. A protective order is in force.

[amaysngrace]

I am going to tell him to pack his things and leave also serving the divorce papers.

 

Isn't this against your protective order?

 

I'm so confused.

[Balzac]

Read post 6.

[lynngv]

He was ordered by the judge to take an anger management class too.He did and did take the class.

[Balzac]

Of course he did, that was a requirement to be released from probation.

 

Be very aware and cautious of your safety.

[standtall]

good for you lynn..now as other posters have stated, be aware for your safety. He has been jailed for domestic violence against you, and has been ordered to anger management..2 big red flags. I would recommend having a couple of male relatives with you when he shows up..not other men, but relatives.

[lynngv]

My father and and my cousin Nick will be there.They are both work out and are strong.My parents said I did the right thing,file for divorce.They said I deserve better,what he did to me is wrong.I also thank a neighbor of mine,her name is Carla and she convinced me.She was in an abusive relationship and almost died 5 years ago.Ex husband beat her with a baseball bat,he is serving a 20 year sentence for attempted murder.That gave me a huge wake up call,I don't need to end up dead.