Hoping444 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 (edited) My boyfriend of 9 months recently told me he needed a break. This was after he was home with his family who he is very close with. We have had our arguments like any couple and last week he was away and contacted me constantly about how much he missed me. Then he goes home and springs this one me. He kept repeating he didn't want to break up just needed a break. He then contacted me a day later saying I know neither of us are happy and I just need some time alone to figure things out. And he wants NC as he doesn't think if we are contacting each other he will be able to really figure everything out. We usually talk everyday almost all day so the silence has been pretty hard. Is he just being nice and "taking a break" to make the blow easier or do guys actually need time and space to realize they have lost something? Thanks! Edited November 26, 2012 by Hoping444
ReadMyThread Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 My boyfriend of 9 months recently told me he needed a break. This was after he was home with his family who he is very close with. We have had our arguments like any couple and last week he was away and contacted me constantly about how much he missed me. Then he goes home and springs this one me. He kept repeating he didn't want to break up just needed a break. He then contacted me a day later saying I know neither of us are happy and I just need some time alone to figure things out. And he wants NC as he doesn't think if we are contacting each other he will be able to really figure everything out. We usually talk everyday almost all day so the silence has been pretty hard. Is he just being nice and "taking a break" to make the blow easier or do guys actually need time and space to realize they have lost something? Thanks! Do you want to be with someone who needs "a break" to figure out if they want to be with YOU or not? He shouldn't need a break to figure out if he wants to be with you. You derserve someone who WANTS to be with you no matter what. But hey, if you want to wait for him and see how things turn out, go for it. I remember my ex (my first love) told me she needed "space". I gave it to her. Then found out that the only reason she needed space was to talk to another guy behind my back without telling me. Then She left me for him a week later. But I learned from her doing that that if in ANY future relationship I have, if a girl tells me she needs "space" or "a break", I'LL dump her! As soon as she says that. Why? Well, look what happen to me the first time. But other than what happened to me, like I said, you want someone who wants to be with you. If he needs a break that means he is unsure if he wants to be with you. Do you want to be with someone who is unsure if they want you? Hell, If I was you, I'd dumped dude RIGHT NOW! I bet if you did, he either do 2 things... 1. Beg for you back because he really does love you and wants to be with you. Or 2. He wouldn't care because he didn't want to be with you. Simple as that. 1
Treasa Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 What ReadMyThread said. Regardless of his reasons, this guy basically told you to go away and he''ll call you back to his side like an obedient doggie if he decides he wants you again. Don't fall for that crap. Your response should be perfect, beautiful silence....permanently.
ReadMyThread Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 What ReadMyThread said. Regardless of his reasons, this guy basically told you to go away and he''ll call you back to his side like an obedient doggie if he decides he wants you again. Don't fall for that crap. Your response should be perfect, beautiful silence....permanently. Oh hell yeah, even better, never talk to this guy again without saying anything. But that will probably be too hard for you since you most likely love him. But it's what should be done lol.
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