Joanie77 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 I need some advice. My ex recently broke up with me - and I'm struggling to accept it. When we were together I thought I could do better - I didn't think about him much when we were apart, I never felt like introducing him to my family/friends. His conversations used to bore me sometimes. I always kept an eye open for someone better. I don't know why because my ex was a good guy - and I know I'm not coming across as a nice person here but I'm just trying to be honest. My ex would sometimes psycho-analyse me and tell me I wasn't good at relationships and if we ever had a row he would just walk away. Anyway - I never thought he was right for me but now that he has ended things I feel terrible - I want him back even though I never wanted him before. Why? Am I just reacting to being rejected? Am I just lonely and missing him - it's only been a week so it's still early days - I just need to be sure before I start thinking about contacting him or trying to get hime back - I don't want to do it for the wrong reasons.
KatZee Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 Yeah don't contact him. This is your ego talking here. If he dumped you, you're feeling rejected. Like, "how am I NOT worth dating?!" I think you'd try to get him back only to validate that you're a good partner, not because you actually want him. If you did go back to him a couple things will happen: 1. You'll remember why you didn't want him in the first place 2. You'll hurt him again when you dump him 1
Author Joanie77 Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 Thanks Katzee - I think deep down I know this and my ego is in the way - no-one likes rejection - I do miss him and being with him but probably more the idea of him and the fear of being alone - I keep thinking 'oh what if I don't meet someone like him' because now I've put him on a pedastal and conveniently forgotten why I didn't fully commit.
Pinky777 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Being rejected hurts, even if you were the one who wasn't that into him. Besides I'm sure that there are things you really liked about him and will miss those things, so that's what you're reacting to. It's great having someone around that likes you and wants you and now that's gone, it's natural to feel some sadness. I guess he felt underappreciated which why he left. Think about it, why would you want him back if you didn't like him all that much to begin with? Sounds like you thought of him more as a friend. Sometimes, you dont appreciate what you have until it's gone but it doesn't sound like that's the case here. It sucks to be suddenly single but I'm sure you'll have a much easier time bouncing back and moving on.
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