LoveHurts88 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 4 months since break up. Longest NC for 31 days. Ever since ot was LC. She has a different guy but kept me in the loop. Her life ses like a mess right now and even she said that. She even said that she was better off with me. So why not come back? She just says she doesnt know what to do/wants... I told her im not gonna wait for her when shes with someone else and she just says thanks i appreciate all that u have done for me. Which in turn means all the crap she said before was just bs. I then told her we would never b getting back together after shes been with someone else. So here i am back at square one. I miss her but she pushed me away to a point where in a weeks time id be over her 1
na49 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 My ex has done something similar, contacting me when her life goes to hell. The problem is that she only has done it when her life was going to hell, which isn't okay in my opinion. It makes me feel like I'm just a nobody who she has wrapped around her finger. She probably still loves you but not like she used to. Now it's up to you to decide if that is okay, if you want her back then I don't think that this is okay. After you start NC, I feel like the worst thing you can do is break it. It's very tough, but I feel that it makes you stronger. It's made me stronger, and the longer you go the better you'll feel. At least I've found this to be the case. Of course, the holidays are a bad time to be reminded you are single especially right after a breakup. 1
Author LoveHurts88 Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 Well she doesnt contact me when her lifes a mess but i kinda had a feeling her life was going downhill eversince the breakup. I dont think she loves me anymore she just misses me. I do want her back but not after shes been with another guy. Nooo chance. There is no way i can take her back then. Itll be wayyy too late. Shes old enough to make her own decisions and to figure out what she wants. I guess im really done with her. 1
Chi townD Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 Then stop this LC crap and start a hard NC. Go completely dark on her. She could have had 100% or 0%. Nothing inbetween. Tell her go find another rock to lean on. 1
Author LoveHurts88 Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 Yeap imma go hard NC.. I know she will message me sooner or later tho. She even said she was being unfair to me so she knows. Ill miss her but shes gotta go. I wished her best of luck and pretty much told her we wont be gettin back together so its the end for sure 1
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