na49 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 Last night my ex texted me after three weeks of strict NC. She just said "hey", I didn't respond of course. Well I really want to move on from her, and although she is in two of my classes so I can't completely avoid her for now. Should I block her number? Or wait and see if she continues to try contacting me? Although part of me wants her back, I tell myself that I can't especially with how she disrespected me. I usually only get those thoughts when I'm feeling lonely. I know that she uses her ex boyfriend's as crutches, when no one else is available to talk or listen to her, she pulls them out and talks with them even though she's pretty much forgotten about them. Most of them are dumb enough to listen to her as soon as she calls. I have a bit more respect for myself than to be used like that and realize that it will do nothing for me in getting over her. So to block or not? Thanks guys, posting here has been surprisingly helpful.
Chi townD Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 I'd block. Remember, she wants you out of her life. And I wouldn't ever respond to a respond to a text that just said, "Hey". Hey what? What the hell is that supposed to mean? Put in a noun and a verb and stuff. 1
geegirl Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 I know that she uses her ex boyfriend's as crutches, when no one else is available to talk or listen to her, she pulls them out and talks with them even though she's pretty much forgotten about them. Most of them are dumb enough to listen to her as soon as she calls. I have a bit more respect for myself than to be used like that and realize that it will do nothing for me in getting over her. You answered your own question: So, don't be a crutch. Best way to get over her is not only to decline her calls/texts but to also block. If you don't, you may not be dumb enough to pick up and listen to her, but you'll certainly be derailing your own efforts to heal by letting this clown pop in and trigger you whenever she wants.
Author na49 Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 You're right, because just her calling caused me to take a step back and remember her and think of her more than I want to. I also start playing twenty questions with myself asking "why did she text me?" "does she actually want to talk?" "does she want to apologize? get back together?" etc. Obviously the answers to these questions aren't what I want, but the fact that I do it is bad enough. I guess the small part of me that wants her back, is the part of me that doesn't want to block her number just in case she ever changes her mind. The dumb thing is that I know she won't, and that even if she does it wouldn't be good for me to go back with her only to have her do the same thing again. Convince me some more!
geegirl Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 You're right, because just her calling caused me to take a step back and remember her and think of her more than I want to. I also start playing twenty questions with myself asking "why did she text me?" "does she actually want to talk?" "does she want to apologize? get back together?" etc. Obviously the answers to these questions aren't what I want, but the fact that I do it is bad enough. I guess the small part of me that wants her back, is the part of me that doesn't want to block her number just in case she ever changes her mind. The dumb thing is that I know she won't, and that even if she does it wouldn't be good for me to go back with her only to have her do the same thing again. Convince me some more! Nothing to convince. You already stated you know the reality of your situation. The heart cannot make wise decisions when emotional. Listen to your brain. It's telling you what to do.
Author na49 Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 Nothing to convince. You already stated you know the reality of your situation. The heart cannot make wise decisions when emotional. Listen to your brain. It's telling you what to do. You're right, I guess it's just nice hearing it from other people.
Chi townD Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 More convincing? Dude, just block her number. If a person really, really, REALLY wants to contact you, they know where you live. She would just show up at your doorstep.
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