irc333 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 I was conversing with this woman I met on OKC, had a lot of common interests like the outdoors and other such activities. WE had talked about meeting up for kayaking once she was done with her preplanned holiday and travel plans. Even added each other and had started chatting on FB. Then she dropped the Bomb during chat, "Hey, just thought I'd let you know, I am taking my OKC Profile down because I've recently met someone, he's grown on me!" I was like "Oh okay, guess we won't be meeting up after all" And a great "out" for some people, "Been busy with the holidays, family, friends, etc" Oh well *sigh*
KathyM Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 That's the thing about online dating. People have the opportunity to meet/date several people at once, and at any time they could meet someone they're really interested in, which leaves the other guys they've been in contact with out of luck. It's pretty common. You're competing with a hundred other guys on the site. It's possible she was pretty busy, but made an exception for one guy because she thought he was a great match. The benefits of online dating are also the disadvantages. You can find a lot of women who are looking for a relationship, but you are also competing with a lot of men for them.
grkBoy Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 I feel your pain IRC333. I think most of us have been in that situation one way or another. It's why I had gotten so quick to "launch" someone when I got the talk of how they're so busy and such when you both are in a scenario of people seeking potential dates...like OKC. I know women here hate when I talk like this, but too often we men get the "I'm too busy to date" talk, only to find it's just a "I'm not interested in you" excuse. It's why I tell guys to move on when she's telling you she's too busy or not in the frame of mind to date...especially when it's on OLD. 1
SJC2008 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 Dam sorry to hear that OP. I sometimes wonder if people who do OLD are truly looking for a genuine match or just the hottest catch they can reel in;( It happens all the time I hope you break through... What ever happened to that woman you met at that pool party or whatever it was?? If you don't mind of course;) 1
dasein Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 It happens, keep plugging, and once you get good with it, you will be the one cancelling dates because you've met someone. 2
Author irc333 Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 Dam sorry to hear that OP. I sometimes wonder if people who do OLD are truly looking for a genuine match or just the hottest catch they can reel in;( It happens all the time I hope you break through... What ever happened to that woman you met at that pool party or whatever it was?? If you don't mind of course;) We still talk sometimes, but she said she didn't see it going anywhere romantic. I don't our personalities meshed, but HEY...at least she was willing to actually MEET me.
lovelornandlost Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Ugh...I hate online dating! I am a female and recently met a really great guy. He says such nice things to me, and has said he is very interested, high hopes i will become his girlfriend. etc, etc. HOWEVER, I know he is still getting on the dating site daily. I realize we aren't exclusive. But, I suppose it's hard for me to trust what he is saying wondering if it's just a schpeel he says to everyone. I'd like to think maybe he's just keeping options open until we decide to be exclusive. But it's hard not to feel like it's all a big competition. How can I not feel jealous and paranoid? Modern love is very hard.
NiceGuyDTW Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Ugh...I hate online dating! I am a female and recently met a really great guy. He says such nice things to me, and has said he is very interested, high hopes i will become his girlfriend. etc, etc. HOWEVER, I know he is still getting on the dating site daily. I realize we aren't exclusive. But, I suppose it's hard for me to trust what he is saying wondering if it's just a schpeel he says to everyone. I'd like to think maybe he's just keeping options open until we decide to be exclusive. But it's hard not to feel like it's all a big competition. How can I not feel jealous and paranoid? Modern love is very hard. I was with someone who I met online, and was online while we were together. My advice, do the same until you have commitment. As was said before, when people get on the sites, there are so many people to choose from that its impossible for anyone to not get on there to see if some one better is there for them. Personally, I'm going to stop OLD for a while, and just do it the old fashion way 1
Andy_K Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 It happens, keep plugging, and once you get good with it, you will be the one cancelling dates because you've met someone. Earlier this year I cancelled on the same girl twice because I'd met someone else, each time someone different! Fate just wasn't on her side
Author irc333 Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 I was with someone who I met online, and was online while we were together. My advice, do the same until you have commitment. Exactly, I wanted to mention that in my initial post, perhaps even a seperate post altogether,....and usually this is behavior exhibited by women. Even though they are JUST in the beginning workings of it, they feel the need not to see OTHER people. I grow tired of the, "I JUST STARTED seeing someone, so I'm seeing how that works out". Which is the usual excuse I keep getting. I do not get the, "....see how it works out" part....WHY do you need to see how it "works out"? Why let THAT Keep you from seeing other people?
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 You haven't met anyone. I mean you haven't actually met
Author irc333 Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 You haven't met anyone. I mean you haven't actually met Um, I actually have met women (in person, that know me) that's said this....though the OP doesn't display that, but I have actually asked women out in person (through a Facebook get together, house party, BBQ).
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