Bigbot Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 I am in a debate with a friend regarding the above. Opinions on the subject would be appreciated. I say, find out more information, speak with sister and guage whether it would be something the parents feel is required or if they believe that since it is the 2nd marriage and both are adults (37) there is no need for it. Friend believes that the parents still should be asked and permission granted.
ja123 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 It's always nice if the parents are happy for the couple; however, they should not be asked. What country are you living in?
aussietigerwolf Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 If its something you want to do than do it but it's not necessary
Author Bigbot Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 We are in Canada. Ontario to be specific
melanie_m Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Well, I believe its more like your choice now) Even the first time and even if you were both in your 20s. But it depends on your parents: some take this way too seriously
Oxy Moronovich Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 37 yr olds need their parents permission for marriage? Do you still live at home? 1
veggirl Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 oh lordy I would say "no" to asking parents permission in any circumstance, but I get why young people / first marriages do that. A 2nd marriage at 37? Umm no....
runningfar Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 OH, I think it's cute. Never necessary but cute. If your girlfriend isn't offended by that sort of thing why not do it? I can't imagine a parent saying no.
LittlePrince Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 I'm guessing the poster is of an ethnicity in which this is still done.
Author Bigbot Posted November 27, 2012 Author Posted November 27, 2012 You would be guessing wrong littleprince. Oxy Moronovich - Yes living at home. My home with my 2 daughters (6 and 3 to be precise) I wouldn't say asking them is about permission anymore, but more of out of respect for all. Her parents probably would not really care if they were asked or not but showing them the respect and chilvary in the matter could also show them that I care for thier daughter and will not hurt her like her previous marriage. I don't know, there are many liars out there (men and women) that hurt their spouses greatly. Yes you can say I am a little old fashioned and my ex wife's father expected that I ask him permission to marry his daughter. I will be the same way for my 2 daughters with their future husbands. Respect is earned not given, yes my daughters can do whatever they want even if I was to say no it is their lives to live, but id still have respect for the guy for asking me. I guess by typing this out, I may have answered my own question, yes we are 37 and both of our second marriage but showing respect to each others families can only be a positive thing for the marriage. I asked her what she thought, and she said that her parents probably would not care if they were asked, but if I did they probably would think highly of me doing so and appreciate the gesture regardless of knowing that thier daughter can make her own decisions and life choices.
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