Tashana Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 (edited) Hi I need real and honest opinion about this. I'm new to this site so please help me out.I've been with this guy for over 2 years now and we've known each other for about 3 years. I never thought I would fall for him because we're absolutely opposite from each other. He was my first love/real serious relationship/first kiss/first real boyfriend. (My family didn't allow me to date at a young age so I never got to experience love at young age.) So here's my story please read on. I remember the first time I met him on my way to one of my classes. He accidentally bumped into which caused me to knock some of my stuff down so he helped me picked it up and etc. He's a very quite guy who doesn't usually talk. So I happened to see him around school a lot. I was talking to one of my friend about him and coincidentally she told me that she knew him. At first I didn't think much about him except he was a nice guy and seeing him around made me felt a little happy and etc. About 2 months after I told my friend about him she actually hooked us up. And we were together on and off for about a year. The first time we broke up was because of lack of communication and some other stuff. I started dating my childhood best friend, but that didn't really work out because that guy ended up cheating on me. I remember I was crying really bad that night and he called me asking if I was okay since he heard from some of our friends about the guy cheating on me. Ever since that night he tried his best to cheer me up and etc. Sometimes after I got over the whole cheating incident he asked to be his girlfriend again and give him a second chance. We dated again for about a year. I had to move to a different school after that school year ended. He was devastated when I told him that I was going to move away due to some issues with my extended family. He told me that he wanted me to be his wife. I was literally full of joy when he told me that he saw me in his future as his wife. We both got "promised rings". I still wear our promise ring along with other jewelries that he had given me. Before I left we decided to try long distance relationship even though we know that with our busy schedule we won't be able to see much of each other. During the long distance relationship I started having doubts in his love for me so he showed up to one of my class reunion to give me a rose and to tell me how much I means to him. I was really happy with him. But somewhere a long the line I let others opinion influenced my relationship with him. I ended up ending our 2 years long relationship that could have led to something better. I feel really bad because looking back now he was my best friend. He was the guy that was always there to turn my frown upside down. He helped me through my Grandpa's death, insecurity issues, family problems, and much more. Whenever he knows that he made me mad or upset me, he would try his best to make me feel better. We've been broken up for quite awhile now and I've been unhappy for all those times. All the times that he messed up and asked me for another chance, I would give it to him. This time I'm the one that messed up, but I'm really not sure whether I should ask him for my second chance or not. I feel like I might hurt him again. I really don't want anything harmful to happen to him. We've talked recently especially during this one conversation where he called me at night. He started telling me how unhappy he is. How his life is a mess and etc. I felt so bad because he told me that he felt like he couldn't talk to me anymore after our break up. I don't want him to face his problems by himself because I still want to be in his life. Should I ask for my second chance? I know for a fact that the both of us are unhappy with our lives like this. Edited November 26, 2012 by Tashana
lammy Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 listen to your heart, if it is meant to be you will never know unless you try.At least you two are talking..some of us have the silent treatment..lol....It seems like you two were a perfect match for eachother , put your pride down if you want to be with him but still be reasonable ...do you think it is worth is? are you just getting back together because things in both your lives aren't going well or is it because you really cherish and love that person so dearly?...Every decision/action you make in life either comes with a reward or a disappoint but either way you can at least say "i gave it a try''. Hope you two work things out;)
Author Tashana Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 listen to your heart, if it is meant to be you will never know unless you try.At least you two are talking..some of us have the silent treatment..lol....It seems like you two were a perfect match for eachother , put your pride down if you want to be with him but still be reasonable ...do you think it is worth is? are you just getting back together because things in both your lives aren't going well or is it because you really cherish and love that person so dearly?...Every decision/action you make in life either comes with a reward or a disappoint but either way you can at least say "i gave it a try''. Hope you two work things out;) Thank you so much for reply! I definitely feel like this is worth it because we've been through so much. I feel really bad for messing up with him. He wasn't like any other guys. He went through a lot during his childhood so it caused him to take caution of everybody. I was the first person to get him to open up to me. I'm going to see him again in about a month at mine and my other two close friends birthday dinner. My friend told me that he doesn't really talk to anyone that's attending the dinner, but he did say that he'll go and she thinks its because he's going for me. I don't know if I should talk to him then or maybe sooner.
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