Jamber Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 My boyfriend (male, 22) and I (female, 21) have been dating for over 3 years. We met through a mutual friend the summer before I started college at the same college he attended (he's a year older), and we hit it off pretty quickly. We spent every day together towards the beginning, and it was a typical honeymoon phase...but even after that point, we were happy. We've had a very awesome relationship so far. Now, he's graduated and is working as a tutor on campus. I'm graduating this year. We're both applying for different grad schools. We're trying to apply to places that are close to one another (close, meaning, 3 hours or less), but it's looking like it will be difficult due to us being in such different fields. We have never done long distance, EXCEPT for 3 months this past summer...I decided to do this awesome internship overseas, even though he wouldn't be able to come with me. We decided to stay together and try to make it work for when I got back. While I was gone, I met a lot of people and made a lot of great friends. Sure, I may have seen some guys who I thought were cute, but something about them made me uninterested in dating them...either I wasn't in to them in that way, or we were just fundamentally incompatible, personality-wise. No one had the same combo of being attractive to me and also someone I could be best friends with, like my bf. I came back, and we continued on just as we had left off before my internship. He even spent Thanksgiving with me and my family this weekend, and it went great. The problem is this: a long-distance relationship may be coming up now. I know 3 months doesn't seem like a long time, but I really hardly got to talk to him (9 hours time difference, and it was very expensive to do phone calls, basically a lot of emails and some precious skyping). I have been the one in the relationship dragging my feet when it comes to talking about our future, or what we want for our relationship (although we've always been clearly monogamous). I didn't like the 3 month experiment with LDR. And I've recently realized just how much I love this guy (...a LOT). What can I do to prepare for this?? I want to stay with him, and would try a LDR. I have to do a graduate program that would take a long time, at least 5-7 years. He may either be doing a 2 year program, or a 5-7 year program. How can we make that work?? I don't know if I can stand 5-7 years living across the country from each other. And, how can I make these last months awesome and special without casting a dark cloud over our talks about the future? I know this is a HUGE block of text, and I honestly don't expect anyone to respond to this...I just had to get it off my chest. Just typing it out makes me feel better. Summary: 1.) How do I prepare for the possibility of a LDR? 2.) How can I make these last months the best possible for him, and for me, and not cast a dark cloud over our (potentially) last times near each other?
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