allenpo123 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 I met my ex online and started an long distance relationship with him for 1.5 years. When the feeling started to get serious, we realized it would be too hard for us to eventually be together. We are from different countries and cultures, and can't relocate to the other person's country for life. (In his culture, it would be me to relocate) That being said, we decided the best thing was for us is to set a relationship expiry date and ease the feelings out instead of breaking up at the spot. We agreed we would meet each other once, have some quality time together, and then go our separate ways. Everything was ideal until my feelings started to grow on him unknowingly... and separating appeared to be much more harder than I thought... I can understand if it was bad break up, there would be anger-> resentfulness -> forgiveness -> move on. But what if it's a good breakup? We are remaining friends... I really want to meet him again, but I know it will be bad for me because it would be even harder to move on... Any advice?
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Remaining friends if it's not practical to meet, or oneday settle, was a good idea. I see you care about him...if you want to meet again, maybe this time you could both meet at a midway point...if that helps. If not, well..it will be tough remaining friends with a person you've fallen for...but it will workout....Talk with him about it. See what you two are willing to do. Goodluck!
Author allenpo123 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Remaining friends if it's not practical to meet, or oneday settle, was a good idea. I see you care about him...if you want to meet again, maybe this time you could both meet at a midway point...if that helps. If not, well..it will be tough remaining friends with a person you've fallen for...but it will workout....Talk with him about it. See what you two are willing to do. Goodluck! At this point, I think he wouldn't agree to meet.. The reality hasn't changed, I still won't be able to relocate, and I couldn't blend into his culture. We have no future, we still couldn't be together... He is very devoted to his family, so it's very important for him to have a wife who would able to get along with his family. He told me before if the girl cannot get along with his family, then she isn't the right girl. It hurts a little to know that I'm not the right one for him, but on the other hand, he isn't the right guy for me anyways. I just wish he would have thought about HOW he would make it work for us more in the beginning... He said he did try thinking of ways for us to be together initially, but our culture and countries are so different it would be nearly impossible. I really hope we had more time to spend together before we decided to separate... But he said it is for the best, the more we stay together, the harder it will be... I feel really reckless.
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