lammy Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 hey people! This past tues I broke things off with the guy have being dating for 3.5 weeks because I was having trust issues with him...long story short he was hearing rumours about me but refused to tell me the people that were talking about me and what they were saying.it all started on the day he switched off his phone on me when he knew i was going to call him ...and yes am sensitive i got upset and asked one of my friends( lets call her jackie) if someone did the same to her would she be upset.You guys must know though, i never mentioned my name and his name in the scenario i gave her plus am not close friends with her but the guy am dating is.So he texted me asking to see if i was ok/ feeling better and am like what do you mean?.... his like "people talk"...and am like which people and what are they saying? and he says "dont worry about it, just be direct with me if you have something to say".so i tell him is it jackie that is talking about me coz i know u are friends with her and even if i do tell ppl things i never mention names...So i told him how can i trust you if you feel the need to protect this person that has being talking crap about me....Like how did she know it was him i was talking about she is not involved with my personal life....unless of cause he was talking about me with her....like if he wants me to trust him he too should be willing to tell me what is on his mind and not hide anything from me..like i even told him jokingly to leave his phone on and not switch it off on me when am about to send him sweet love notes( i tried to make sure i didn't sound upset).I got over the fact that he switched off his phone...that no biggy...what that bothers though is i feel like he values Jackie's friendship more than mine..or rather what him i have...had with him:( Anyways, the following day(wed) I started having second thoughts and I told him that maybe I made a mistake ending the relationship so quickly..i thought to myself maybe it wasn't a good enough reason to break things off.He didn't contact me since that day...he said he had to Process what I had said. so last night (sat) I spoke to him to ask him like what happening bwt us if we are done or not and he tells me he doesn't know.I know that I still like him and I am willing to give us a second try but it seems to me like maybe he doesn't care...i even apologized for hurting his feelings that by me ending the relationship was not a good thing to do because I was upset and that i acted on impluse and i over reacted.i still see him staring at me a lot...we make eye contact and I can't help myself from smiling. ...what should I do and will he come back?I know am smart if he wanted me by now he wouldn't have wasted anytime on coming back to me the moment I apologized ...oh we have known each other for 3 months..his very sweet always called me at night, made sure am happy...hung out... well that was when we where talking etc.like if i put myself in his shoes.. i would be thinking ok yes this gal freaks out easily but if i really liked her i would still give her a chance ..we all make mistakes... BTW....this is the first guy i have dated...(embarrassing)...maybe that's why i dont know how to handle my emotion or rather am just plan confused:confused:
safarijed Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 you'll become less sensitive and more sure of yourself as you go, but it can take time to learn how to handle emotions. Generally, whether your a woman or a man, the more needy and insecure you seem, the more likely you are to drive a potential partner away, unless they are a predator. I know it can be hard not to dwell on it but keep yourself busy and stay calm. You've got a much better chance if you just show him you've got it together.
lemonlime Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Yeah, I mean thats a lot of drama for someone that you'd been dating less then a month.
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