El Brujo Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 I did once...that's when I did MGTOW. Granted I met Ms Right a few years later, but I chose to make my "defeatest attitude" into a positive one by simply removing the personal sense of importance I put on dating...and prioritizing other things. ^That.^ A guy is only a loser if he chooses to be one and doesn't ditch his lousy attitude.
Easyguy14 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 I didn't really want this thread to be about me, but I am starting to honestly feel that perhaps I'm not meant for this, my efforts always seem to not do anything, I just get failure after failure, I'm not going to stop talking to girls but I don't expect it to ever lead anywhere. As for my brother I do think its easier to help him out, as girls do seem to be interested in him, he just needs to relax and not act like a robot, and also perhaps take a more active role but then again that may not be needed since from what I can tell he doesn't approach girls, girls approach him. Different females approach me too quite often particularly in bars after she's had several shots but its often always the kinds of women I want no part of.
RhapsodyinBlue Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Bump. I often feel that way. I think I have a lot to offer to someone and I know my worth, but sometimes I feel like others may understand it or may feel intimidated. I'm 24 and never been in a relationship. I've dated here and there, but kept attracting *******s. I'm not a difficult person to get along with. I made the mistake of trying to chase one person who ended up dropping me like hot pancakes, but I take some responsibility in that. 1
charlietheginger Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I have kinda the same feeling about Dating or relationships.... Ive been Stepped on Walked over Lied to Verbal degraded Physically abused All by my exwife.... I try not to judge all women by My past exp with my exwife... Its been 14months i still have not Had sex just making out and a blowjob.. Ive had women show interest i dont persue It... I chat text email but most often don't follow through.. Honesty im happy alone and being single I get to meet crazy women and chat..I get More stimulation by chatting with women Then actual sex... Id much rather talk to a women about Her trip to hawaii look at pics hear her Talk see her facial expressions watch her Expressions interact in Converse with her then just me shoving my Dingdong in her sex imo is kinda boring
Million.to.1 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I feel/felt like this too. My relationship history is a joke. Maybe it's my people picker, who knows. Even when things are looking good for a while, something always turns it on its head. Sometimes i feel like the universe is conspiring against me and any glimmer of hope that i have for happiness with someone else is always quickly whisked away. Love tests me too much. I'm almost sure it's just a big cosmic joke.
RhapsodyinBlue Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I feel/felt like this too. My relationship history is a joke. Maybe it's my people picker, who knows. Even when things are looking good for a while, something always turns it on its head. Sometimes i feel like the universe is conspiring against me and any glimmer of hope that i have for happiness with someone else is always quickly whisked away. Love tests me too much. I'm almost sure it's just a big cosmic joke. I know the feeling! No one ever hits on me and even when I put myself out there it seems to work against me. I never LOOK for relationships, but I'm always open and receptive. Dating is just one of those once in a blue moon things for me lol
LittlePrince Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Yep exactly as the title says, do you ever feel that you are not meant to date/have a relationship? Why I ask? Just curious if anyone else feels the same way. I notice I have terrible luck in dating, at first I was thinking maybe I'm not attractive, too nerdy, maybe socially inept in some way or just not charismatic, bad aura, etc. But maybe my bad luck is just a sign that perhaps I'm not meant for this. I was thinking about it the other day and I asked myself "why do I want a girlfriend, what do I have to gain from this?" After giving it some thought I couldn't really come up with anything. I know its not for sex while I admit I do entertain the idea I know I should only have sex in marriage. Besides all the messiness it can cause to a relationship I don't find it morally right to have sex outside of marriage. The only thing I could really come up with was the nebulous concept of "companionship" and some other feeling I can't for some reason define at the moment. So what's the point. In any given generation many men don't end up with anyone and are bachelors for life.
Author Necris Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 I remember feeling like I couldn't get a date or a relationship, until I stopped thinking that way because it was counter-productive. Once I started believing that no matter what I could get a date, I actually started getting dates. It's not a quick process, but I got there. And there is nothing genetic that says you absolutely cannot get a date. It might be more difficult for you than others, but it's not impossible. I don't know man, I feel like it maybe just not meant for me to have any success everytime I feel good and think I'm finally going somewhere I end up right back at where I started no matter what I do nothing seems to help.
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