I think I want out.

[Domino2339]

I have be married for 8 years now. I have three children 7,5,2. *In the past 6 1/2 years of our marriage I just did what made my husband happy. I have a hard time telling him no, like when he wants something and we really don't have the money, I pinch pennies to make it work. I married young, my husband is 9 1/2 years older then me. We got Married when I was 20. *We dated for about 2 months and I got pregnant and our parents wanted us to get married. The beginning of out marriage like the first year was good, but it has slowly feel apart. He is a momma boy and we live with both of his parents after losing our house to forcloser. Now that we live with them, he has changed. I can't get in to a heated discussion with him without mommy butting in. *And I feel like I'm not the mother to my children because she steps in all the time. I surpoted our family for 5 years while my husband was the stay at home, because of day care costing to much. I was alway understanding that he would need to get out of the house to be with friends after being couped in a house with 2 kids and 3 later. I would fill his car give him mad money and let him haging out with his friends for 8am to 11pm on weekends. I wanted him to relaxs. *Now he *has a job and I was let go, I feel like a prisoner. I just grow a backbone and started to do things I use to do befor we got married. hunting was always a passion in my family and I haven't hunted it 7 years.. *This year I stared to do it again. *And every chances I get to hunt, my husband and mother in law get pissed... He is complaining that I don't do anything with him anymore, and my mother in law thinks I need to spend every waking moment with my daughter, so if I go hunting all day saturday, *I get the I can't believe you could do that to you kids. *And when I am home to spend time with him, his face is glued to the Xbox... Or he goes to bed early because he is tired and I'm stuck staying up with our daughter because he will let her take a nap at 5pm.. I just feel like I am a child in this relationship and it's do what I say not as I do. *I can't talk to him, and if I do he turns my problems back on to me as if it is my fault. *Maybe it's me and it's because *I was young and didn't get to grow up and have fun befor I became a mother, and I *feeling like *I have to give everything up, because I don't get help. Someday I just want to walk out, and it hurts me for thinking that. I love my kids, but I feel like a single mom, with a guy that get what he wants.

[lulee]

Hi there, first off, i can somewhat understand the mother in law issue, mines won't seem to stop butting in. Its truly hard specially if you live with her because she should feel this power over you guys staying in her house under her roof, so it is kinda hard, you should start by moving out or even renting out. Because if your under her roof she will feel this need and this overpower over you. Just because you had kids young does not mean anything, you still have the right and deserve to have at least some alone time for yourself there is absolutely nothing wrong with that specially something you enjoy. Take deep breaths, and you do need to talk to your husband, this is not your mother in law's business to handle, she needs to shut her trap and not butt in. You do need to talk to your husband however. Do this outside of the house meaning go out somewhere, away from his mother where it is just you and him. Go eat somewhere and take the opportunity to talk to him without arguing.

 

Sometimes we want to prevent argument but end up feeling worse. Have you tried talking to your mother in law? Sometimes talking does resolve things, but do it only when you guys are alone, not with someone there.

 

Hang in there, you guys have been married for eight years that's amazing don't let a miscommunication ruin your marriage if you still love him.Don't give this pleasure to your mother in law.