Sigh anyone?

[TheSadGuy]

So me and my girlfriend have been going out 9 months now.

The first 3 months were amazing but that was all the time we could have together.

That was all the time we had. After that we can't see each other for 2 years.

I still have 1 year and half to wait till I can truly be with her, but this wasn't the first time I was going out with her.

 

3 years ago we went out but for only 3 months but she was my first girlfriend because she was the only one I ever saw interest in but before me was this guy they broke up she was heart broken but she was obsessed with him even when we were going out but she never showed it.

 

However she never showed much interest in me either but she did to my cousin.

I never knew this until a much while later when we broke up because I was too stupid to notice.

She had more interest in him then me but she never told me.

3 years later (now). We went back out she gave me a valentines letter but I gave her answer a day late because I needed time to think.

 

However before we went back out she was close to my best friend even people were saying they were together. She said she just needed someone close to be with.

She also told me she's done with her obsession she moved on. And the incident with my cousin she just told me she was being stupid she didn't know what she was thinking.

 

So I have trust issues with her because of past problems. I've told her before about everything and how I feel. I really love her.

Once we were talking on the phone and my cousin was there he decided to interrupt and called her and she putted me hold and talked to him even though she knew how I felt. After that she ended her friendship with everyone else just so I could try and trust her again.

However in a long distance relationship I don't know if she is telling the truth of not I don't know what she does. We talk and text everyday and every minute we can also webcam.

But at time I just have doubts of her.

 

She went to the movies a couple time but with her family she said but her parents argue a lot so why would they spend time together at the movies? so I get the feeling something else is happening? But I really don't want to believe it.

We've talked about a future together and everything. I really love her so much. And she does too she wrote many letters and gave it to me as a gift to ensure me that she's mine. At first when we had to do with the long distance we've talked about breaking up and I thought we broke up she ever said it. But when a subject popped up if we were together she said we still were together.

 

Honestly I rather be with her and I am right now.

So like I said I now have trust issues with her so I need some advice what should I do.

 

Hold on to this relationship and have a hopefully amazing future? or end it now. Does she really love me like she says? Does she mean it?

 

Honest opinion please.

Edited November 26, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[MyPoutine]

This is especially true for LDR: Without trust you have nothing.

[justwhoiam]

It seems like anyone is more interesting than you are... your cousin, your best friend, the other guy... I don't know, I would say her behavior is understandable if she's under 20. Is she seeing someone else? We can't answer that question. Space out contact, and see if she's just looking for you to fill in her time gaps.

[Toddbt12y1]

I wouldn't be with someone like that -- oh wait? I was! Game-player. That is what she comes off to me as. Yeah they write letters and try to reassure you to hold unto you, er, their prize. If she's proven dishonest twice or thrice, why not again?

 

Why be with such a disrespectful girl? Yeah you love her -- like I loved mine...but it doesn't mean you have to be a doormat.

 

But what do I know? Lately my advice just isn't adding up...not that you'd take it anyway. You'll have to learn yourself. But give her some space and let's see...