foretale Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 (edited) l feel really excited and starting to feel attached to a girl Ive spent two very successful 5 hour dates on. We texted for 3 weeks before I met her "online dating". Basically Im worried im getting attached to soon. We have both established that we want a relationship and aren't seeing any one else Advice and opinions would help me a ton Thanks! Edited November 26, 2012 by foretale
ErosOcean Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 We all become attached to someone in our life. It's the level of attachment that makes it either good or bad. Too unattached to someone and they will think you don't care for them. Too much attachment and they will think that you are an obsessive stalker. Middle ground is balancing somewhere in between. Being attached too soon is a broad statement. But I'm guessing that you mean that you are developing deep feelings for her already. Which is not a bad thing. The bad thing is you let these deep feelings become jealousy and anger when she does something that you don't approve of. Or you try to be controlling of her way too early in the relationship. (If she doesn't text you or doesn't get back to you as soon as you would like, you become upset and angry. That's bad. Or if she talks to or has a lot of guy friends then you become jealous and get upset. Again, bad.) Basically, just keep doing what you are doing but try not to be so attached to the outcome of things and you'll be fine.
Author foretale Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 We all become attached to someone in our life. It's the level of attachment that makes it either good or bad. Too unattached to someone and they will think you don't care for them. Too much attachment and they will think that you are an obsessive stalker. Middle ground is balancing somewhere in between. Being attached too soon is a broad statement. But I'm guessing that you mean that you are developing deep feelings for her already. Which is not a bad thing. The bad thing is you let these deep feelings become jealousy and anger when she does something that you don't approve of. Or you try to be controlling of her way too early in the relationship. (If she doesn't text you or doesn't get back to you as soon as you would like, you become upset and angry. That's bad. Or if she talks to or has a lot of guy friends then you become jealous and get upset. Again, bad.) Basically, just keep doing what you are doing but try not to be so attached to the outcome of things and you'll be fine. thank you very much thats exactly what I needed to hear cheers!
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