six18 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 What would you think if a person you were dating said: If marriage & kids fall into place then great. If not I am happy with my life as is. Does that sound like they are not interested or should I assume they don't care either way.
todreaminblue Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 What would you think if a person you were dating said: If marriage & kids fall into place then great. If not I am happy with my life as is. Does that sound like they are not interested or should I assume they don't care either way. That sounds like in my opinion, they accept what happens happens in their life....they are happy to be by themselves but would like to get married saying great to marriage and kids if it happens, is to me, stating that is what they would like to happen, but either way, they accept what life and love has to offer.....best wishes....deb 1
newmoon Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 i would say they don't care either way, but are still open to the idea of kids with the right partner. my best (male) friend (he's 42) says this constantly - the right woman could change his mind and he'd have kids, but if it didn't happen for him that's ok too. it's not negative at all imo. 1
RachR Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 What would you think if a person you were dating said: If marriage & kids fall into place then great. If not I am happy with my life as is. Does that sound like they are not interested or should I assume they don't care either way. That's me. I'm not necessarily set out on having children, but with the right person I will. Being with the right person might make me in particular want to have a kid. If I don't have children though, that's ok too. Like newmoon said, it's not negative. 1
veggirl Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 What would you think if a person you were dating said: If marriage & kids fall into place then great. If not I am happy with my life as is. Does that sound like they are not interested or should I assume they don't care either way. Well, that's how I feel. I will be fine either way. I think hearing that is better than "omg I better have a kid within 3 yrs or I'm gonna off myself!" 1
Author six18 Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 I gave this response to a guy who desperately was looking for a mate to have children with. And it is honestly how I feel. However his focus on children actually turned me off. It maybe wasn't his intention but I felt he was just looking for a baby maker and nothing more since that is what he emphasized. I do think it is great that he knows children are his goal but finding a mate solely just to have children eh. To each his own. If I met a guy that synced with me in most every way and he was not interested in having children I would be satisfied. The pitter patter of little ones at sometimes doesn't sound so alluring but with the right person it could be wonderful
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