Sweetheart16 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I was dating my ex for about 8 months, he was my first everything. I wasn't sure how this relationship thing works and why he would want me. He was the one that tried to get me I resisted at first, but how could I he was soo sweet. Everything was good until trust issues appeared. We started fighting literally everyday. He left to his birthplace and when he returned things weren't the same. He started talking to his female friends more, It got me so jealous. Until he told me we had to talk and said he wanted to break up since we always argue and things weren't going to work out that he didn't want to end things with me but it was the best thing to do. Wtf!? Im the type of person that believes in working hard and giving up being the last choice. he told me he wasn't going to see anyone and that he couldn't take the idea of me being with someone else just yet. What gets me more aggravated is the fact I never gave up on us, even when he did things that wasn't very much to my liking I was there! sure i made mistakes but he's done worse s*it and I never gave up why did he? So we broke up and I literally felt so bad, meanwhile holding my tears in front of him. He texted me the next day like he normally would. I ignored it. But a few days later he texted me insisted in hanging out so we did. We kissed and had a good time which was very confusing to me. So I called him and told him how devastating and confusing this was and that if I couldn't have all of him I wasn't going to settle for half. And that we should move on, that he can still see me as a friend and he agreed. Which was stupid of me, but i felt like there's nothing I can do. I've tried it all. So here it's where it all confuses me, I started texting and seeing him less. And if there was a day I didn't text him he would text me angry asking why I wouldn't reply. I've tried the no contact rule but we see each other most of the times at class and his family is close to mine. He still checks my twitter and asks why I write most things, he checked my phone not too long ago trying to see who I was texting. And when I'm around him at class hes texting girls and trying too hard to get me jealous and I have to pretend like it doesn't hurt. if im texting some one he gets mad and asks me if that's my new lover? Why would he get mad when i text people when he does it freely? If I reject hanging out with him he gets mad and I told him why does this bother you so much? you were the one that broke up with me! And he got mad and stopped talking to me for a whole day but then called me... I feel like everything I do would get him mad. two weeks after the break up he pulled me in for a kiss, I didn't resist then walked away n he pulled me again for another kiss, it was so good I was shaking. He told me he missed me, and he said he wanted me sexually and I asked him why? He said to get what's mine back. I don't know what to do, I just want him back but I won't tell him unless he tells me it cause I want to feel like HE wants it, not like i forced it out of him. Like there's times I feel he wants to get back with me but then again I don't; I know him he's the type that will confront me and tell me he wants me back. I really want to talk to him about the subject but it scares me since we never really agree to anything. Help me
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Sadly you are being played. Do not give this loser anything..especially sex. You remind me of a girl I knew, named Sara...but do not be a fool and talk to him. He has no loyalty...he is using you...don't make yourself his victim. He is playing games...do not talk to him. It's hard...but you're better off...I'm sorry this happened to you...it sucks...don't be controlled either./hug
flitzanu Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 pay attention to his words. he doesn't want a relationship with you. he wants (apparently) to bang you, but not to commit to you.
KatZee Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 (edited) Short answer: Because he doesn't have to. Long answer: He gets all the perks of being with you, without committing to you at all. This is any player's dream. He has a naive girl wrapped around his finger, willing to do everything and anything for him, free sex, free support, free everything, and all he has to do is toss out a few breadcrumbs, act interested in you JUST ENOUGH to keep you hanging on and hoping he'll make you an official girlfriend. He won't. This is the game. What incentive does he have to make you a GF? He already gets everything from you as is. There's nothing left but a title, and it's not like you're really standing up for yourself and demanding the respect, you just act like a GF when you're not. Tell him to f.uck off. He dumped you so there is no relationship. He has no rights to check up on you or get angry if you're with other people. And for f's sake stop just kissing him for the hell of it just so he can act like a caveman and "claim what's his." You're not an object, and you're no longer his girlfriend. NC! Edited November 27, 2012 by KatZee 1
Simon Phoenix Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Problem is that you are waiting with baited breath for him to make up his mind. Do your own thing and don't wait. And don't sleep with him.
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