Nightsky Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Thought I'd help enlighten those who enjoy this topic. An easy explanation of why girls date jerks and not nice guys. Firstly, we have to get into the mind of people who look at such situations. Such an assertion will usually come from a man and it will be about their dating woes. So, they are the person doing the defining of what a nice guy is and what a jerk is. It's a simple as defining any guy who does bad with women no matter douchey they might be a "nice guy" and any guy who does good with women no matter how awesome they are a "jerk." Let's get more in depth here shall we. This guy who can't girl when being dumped or rejected doesn't get told "sorry you seem to boring, unattractive, etc." no they get told something like "you're very kind I see you as a friend" or just some random compliment maybe no explanation at all. Well whether given an explanation or not the kind of guy who believes in nice guys finish last is going to say to himself "she doesn't want to date me because I'm polite and respectful, if only I wasn't such a good person like all those guys who enjoy sex and stuff." So, they never blame their attractiveness to that particular girl, they take rejection very personally, and blame it on them being to nice even though nothing would point to that. Now as to why they think guys who get girls are jerks and more specifically not that they are just jerks but get the girls because they are jerks. They will here a girl complain about an ex "why do I only date jerks" really though that same girl would probably call the "nice guy" a jerk if he were her ex. Also they see guys who want girls for sex instead of just hand holding an label them jerks. Also with out any evidence they often just see a guy with a girl and think he looks like a jerk there for is a jerk. Finally it's about making themselves a nice guy and if they don't have a gf well must be because girls on like jerks. Finally, girls really do like a bad ass jerk, but most of these self proclaimed nice guys are jerks, just not bad ass enough. So, in summation be the right kind of jerk! Also being polite helps, but don't expect opening a door for a woman or saying thank you to be a pantie dropper. Unless you're saying please bend over and thank you!
todreaminblue Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Thought I'd help enlighten those who enjoy this topic. An easy explanation of why girls date jerks and not nice guys. Firstly, we have to get into the mind of people who look at such situations. Such an assertion will usually come from a man and it will be about their dating woes. So, they are the person doing the defining of what a nice guy is and what a jerk is. It's a simple as defining any guy who does bad with women no matter douchey they might be a "nice guy" and any guy who does good with women no matter how awesome they are a "jerk." Let's get more in depth here shall we. This guy who can't girl when being dumped or rejected doesn't get told "sorry you seem to boring, unattractive, etc." no they get told something like "you're very kind I see you as a friend" or just some random compliment maybe no explanation at all. Well whether given an explanation or not the kind of guy who believes in nice guys finish last is going to say to himself "she doesn't want to date me because I'm polite and respectful, if only I wasn't such a good person like all those guys who enjoy sex and stuff." So, they never blame their attractiveness to that particular girl, they take rejection very personally, and blame it on them being to nice even though nothing would point to that. Now as to why they think guys who get girls are jerks and more specifically not that they are just jerks but get the girls because they are jerks. They will here a girl complain about an ex "why do I only date jerks" really though that same girl would probably call the "nice guy" a jerk if he were her ex. Also they see guys who want girls for sex instead of just hand holding an label them jerks. Also with out any evidence they often just see a guy with a girl and think he looks like a jerk there for is a jerk. Finally it's about making themselves a nice guy and if they don't have a gf well must be because girls on like jerks. Finally, girls really do like a bad ass jerk, but most of these self proclaimed nice guys are jerks, just not bad ass enough. So, in summation be the right kind of jerk! Also being polite helps, but don't expect opening a door for a woman or saying thank you to be a pantie dropper. Unless you're saying please bend over and thank you! ahhh writing threads to rile the women up....you honestly think a girl will drop her pants for a guy who says please bend over and thank you once he finishes.....a call girl would but you would have to pay for that service 3
florence of suburbia Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I think it's simpler than that...women find predictability boring and un-sexy but need someone stable when it comes to long term relationships. Unfortunately most men are either risk takers and therefore sexy but unstable or are non-risk takers and therefore stable but unsexy. Difficult to find someone who has both. Stable = Nice guy Risk taker = Jerk 1
Author Nightsky Posted November 25, 2012 Author Posted November 25, 2012 ahhh writing threads to rile the women up....you honestly think a girl will drop her pants for a guy who says please bend over and thank you once he finishes.....a call girl would but you would have to pay for that service I'm sure a jerk wouldn't have to pay a call girl. That was some humor, you obviously didn't understand my post. It's ok I still love you babe.
florence of suburbia Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 *Edit Risk averse = Stable = Nice guy Risk taker = Unstable = Jerk
Author Nightsky Posted November 25, 2012 Author Posted November 25, 2012 Stable = Nice guy Risk taker = Jerk I don't know the nice guys I'm talking about never even get to date girls... ever. They're just to "nice." The risk these "jerks" I talk of take are how quick they reach up the skirt.
todreaminblue Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I'm sure a jerk wouldn't have to pay a call girl. That was some humor, you obviously didn't understand my post. It's ok I still love you babe. ...yes jerks do pay call girls because they have warnings from the law for saying to a girl please bend over ....apparently they don't say thank you after...big mistake.....sexual harassment suit coming up for jerks so they pay a call girl for it to be safe and get their rocks off....and yes now i am being humorous......deb
florence of suburbia Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I don't know the nice guys I'm talking about never even get to date girls... ever. They're just to "nice." The risk these "jerks" I talk of take are how quick they reach up the skirt. So you're just talking about getting them, not keeping them? I like nerdy bad boys who recite the pythagorean theorem and then reach up my skirt.
Author Nightsky Posted November 25, 2012 Author Posted November 25, 2012 ...yes jerks do pay call girls because they have warnings from the law for saying to a girl please bend over ....apparently they don't say thank you after...big mistake.....sexual harassment suit coming up for jerks so they pay a call girl for it to be safe and get their rocks off....and yes now i am being humorous......deb Yes you really gave me a good laugh thanks for that......deb
todreaminblue Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 So you're just talking about getting them, not keeping them? I like nerdy bad boys who recite the pythagorean theorem and then reach up my skirt. lol......have you had this happen....i have had a guy recite something but that was to stop the skirt up reaching stage..and i dont think it happens anymore..that was long time ago ........smiling....deb
BetheButterfly Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 I think it's simpler than that...women find predictability boring and un-sexy but need someone stable when it comes to long term relationships. Unfortunately most men are either risk takers and therefore sexy but unstable or are non-risk takers and therefore stable but unsexy. Difficult to find someone who has both. It is difficult to find someone with both qualities, but I think the good thing is that many men can grow into being both "stable" as in faithful/committed and ready/willing for a long term relationship, even when they are risk takers. Men who are not naturally risk takers but are rather faithful/committed guys who are ready/willing for a long term relationship can also grow into being more exiting, mysterious, and "dangerous." A lot of it takes willpower, believing in oneself, and implementing taking steps to reach the goals. Stable = Nice guy Risk taker = Jerk Personally, I know some risk takers who are not at all jerks. My husband is one of him. He is one who likes to climb buildings for fun. I could never do that but I greatly admire him for doing that! He likes extreme sports, which to me is very risky yet very sexy. He's also "stable" as in faithful and committed to me (I'm the first woman he has ever committed to/with), though I wouldn't call him "nice." He's not incredibly nice to everybody. He's actually a bit blunt and sarcastic sometimes, though with a funny sense of humor. At first, I didn't get his humor because it's really dry. I am getting it more and more as we grow to know each other. I love him just how he is!!! He is very loving to me and I really appreciate that, especially since I know he's really picky as to whom he gives his love and affection. Ok, going to get off loveshack now!
LittlePrince Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Because evolution is about survival of the biggest jerk. You mate with him and your kids will be jerks thus improving their odds.
carhill Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 Emotional stimulation in a style reminiscent of their socialization period prior to transition to peer priority.
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