thr1986 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I'm in a long distance relationship. one where we love eachother and are in the mist of her planning to move to the city in which I live. Recently she has suggested some sexual things, over the phone, that we have never done together and that are completely out of the blue. It makes me wonder if she is cheating. Additionally, she has recently started to tell me very often and also very out of the blue that "she is mine and only mine forever". We could be talking about something as simple as oh how was your day, and then completely out of no where she will send me a text message saying "i'm yours forever and ever and I will love you every day the rest of my life". Do you think she is trying to overcompensate for being dishonest with me?
Pierre Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I'm in a long distance relationship. one where we love eachother and are in the mist of her planning to move to the city in which I live. Recently she has suggested some sexual things, over the phone, that we have never done together and that are completely out of the blue. It makes me wonder if she is cheating. Additionally, she has recently started to tell me very often and also very out of the blue that "she is mine and only mine forever". We could be talking about something as simple as oh how was your day, and then completely out of no where she will send me a text message saying "i'm yours forever and ever and I will love you every day the rest of my life". Do you think she is trying to overcompensate for being dishonest with me? A cake eating affair by MOW (mostly for sex) can sometimes translate for more sex with the betrayed partner including new positions and techniques. And you are correct, some overcompensate and become very nice at home with the betrayed husband.
Ladydrib Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I'm in a long distance relationship. one where we love eachother and are in the mist of her planning to move to the city in which I live. Recently she has suggested some sexual things, over the phone, that we have never done together and that are completely out of the blue. It makes me wonder if she is cheating. Additionally, she has recently started to tell me very often and also very out of the blue that "she is mine and only mine forever". We could be talking about something as simple as oh how was your day, and then completely out of no where she will send me a text message saying "i'm yours forever and ever and I will love you every day the rest of my life". Do you think she is trying to overcompensate for being dishonest with me? Doesn't sound like it to me. It sounds like she's really excited about miving close together and she is trying to reward you for taking that next step. The fact that she is moving for you is further evidence that she is not cheating. If she was cheating would she want to: 1. Leave her other man? 2. Get more committed to you? I don't think she's cheating. And a side note, be careful because if you don't trust her you can cause a lot of damage to the relationship. I have to ask you, and if you do not want to answer in here, at least answer this question honestly in your own mind, have you been cheating on her? 1
Pierre Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 Or, she thinks you are cheating or feels that you are drifting apart or her best friend shared something with her that she thought sounded like fun. Why not ask her honestly, and gently without sounding like you have her tried and convicted of something she may not have done. I think you'll get more accurate answers from her than here. Asking a cheater if she or he is cheating is futile. By definition the cheater would say no.
Pierre Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 OP has listed nothing that would actually indicate their partner is cheating. If more people had actual conversations with the people they are involved with, there might be less cheating. You have made a very strong point!
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