derrdic3 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 so ive been dating this girl for about a month and a half and things are going great, gone on about 10-11 dates/hanging out exclusively. we have a blast together and everything feels right. i know shes into me and i feel the same about her. My question is, is a month and a half a good time frame to bring up a talk about where were at as far as a relationship goes? i dont want to bring it up too early but i dont want to wait either. we met on a dating site and i know she still checks her profile every few days and it doesnt worry me but at the same time i want to see if were exclusive or if shes still keeping her options open and talking to other people. i guess i just dont want to screw up the good thing we have going right now.. I mean it would be awesome to see where we're at before the holidays but should i just wait and see if it just come up naturally?
Author derrdic3 Posted November 25, 2012 Author Posted November 25, 2012 no, weve talked about it and both agreed to just wait a bit. i dont think its an issue though, we kiss/snuggle/hold hands ect ect. and sorry about the double post my computers being a pos
phineas Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Sorry bud, but I don't think she is all that into you. Especially if she is still going online. Women that are into me try to lock me down ASAP with sex (providing I agree to be exclusive with them) But I also don't cuddle with women i'm not sleeping with. Any more. Strangely about the time I stopped cuddling with women I wasn't sleeping with was about the time I started having more sex. 1
Author derrdic3 Posted November 25, 2012 Author Posted November 25, 2012 i wouldnt say shes actively searching online. i mean i still have my profile as well just incase this doesnt work out but i see she logs in every 4-5 days. there is a lot more going on then i would be willing to sit down and type out, I personally dont think sex is essential until a relationship. Ive gone that route and its great until she jumps ship at the next good looking guy that comes along. im looking for something that will last. and isnt your reply a bit off topic? im not trying to decide if shes into me or not, shes straight up told me she is. im just trying to figure out the best way to see if shes ready for the next step
Redbirdinabrightsky Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 i wouldnt say shes actively searching online. i mean i still have my profile as well just incase this doesnt work out but i see she logs in every 4-5 days. there is a lot more going on then i would be willing to sit down and type out, I personally dont think sex is essential until a relationship. Ive gone that route and its great until she jumps ship at the next good looking guy that comes along. im looking for something that will last. and isnt your reply a bit off topic? im not trying to decide if shes into me or not, shes straight up told me she is. im just trying to figure out the best way to see if shes ready for the next step She is not ready for the next step. If she were ready then she would say so, and she would be the one asking you about the next step. The fact that she is checking her online profile is outright proof that "the next step" with you is clearly not at all on her mind! She is keeping her options open, and, so should you. Go emotionally detached, keep it light and funny, and don't cuddle. Make her ask you the next step stuff; she is the one who should be guessing about where she stands with you, not vice-versa. 1
Author derrdic3 Posted November 25, 2012 Author Posted November 25, 2012 appreciate the advice, thats what i was looking for
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