somedude81 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 My biggest issue with losing ones virginity to a hooker is that once you do lose your virginity, you're going to want to have sex again. Since you can't get a real girl, if you want to get laid again, you'll have to get a hooker once more. I'm not saying you'll be addicted to hookers, but it's a bad feeling wanting sex, and knowing that hookers are your only option. 1
pteromom Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 My biggest issue with losing ones virginity to a hooker is that once you do lose your virginity, you're going to want to have sex again. Since you can't get a real girl, if you want to get laid again, you'll have to get a hooker once more. I'm not saying you'll be addicted to hookers, but it's a bad feeling wanting sex, and knowing that hookers are your only option. I don't think of it as hookers being the ONLY option. They are just a convenient option. People have to be smart if they make this choice. It requires not only forethought, but continued checking of oneself. If he starts getting addicted to hookers or gets to the point where he is so comfortable with hookers that he no longer wants to work on finding a real relationship, then he needs to make a different choice.
somedude81 Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 I don't think of it as hookers being the ONLY option. They are just a convenient option. People have to be smart if they make this choice. It requires not only forethought, but continued checking of oneself. If he starts getting addicted to hookers or gets to the point where he is so comfortable with hookers that he no longer wants to work on finding a real relationship, then he needs to make a different choice. No, I'm pretty sure hookers would be his only option. IMO, most single men who use hookers, do so because they can't get laid anywhere else. And obviously, having sex with hookers doesn't make it any easier to find a real girl to date and/or have sex with.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 27, 2012 Posted November 27, 2012 sumdude. You've heard time and again that an air of despiration/frustration/bitterness is unattractive. Consider this what if having regular release say every month with a call girl leads to you being more relaxed about women in general? This could make it easier for you to find a good woman...as long as you don't get a disease from them (which with a classy call girl and basic precautions is unlikely.) If it comes to streetwalkers just say what Wesley Snipes says here. Yo, Daddy, I'll suck yo' big black dick fo' 2 dollas! - YouTube NOOOO Just like that.
Author Sun Devil Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 I think I will see an escort if I am dateless by the end of the semester. This gives me only 3 weeks left. I am just getting tired of waiting and my virginity means nothing to me. I never meet a guy who regretted seeing an escort. I have enough money and I know to use a condom.
MrCastle Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 I think I will see an escort if I am dateless by the end of the semester. This gives me only 3 weeks left. I am just getting tired of waiting and my virginity means nothing to me. I never meet a guy who regretted seeing an escort. I have enough money and I know to use a condom. Lame (10 characters)
Author Sun Devil Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 Forgot to mention that I still am improving myself, I just am tired of my virginity and will do whatever it takes to remove it.
MrCastle Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 why is it lame? It's not improving yourself. Sex is not this magical thing that once you have it you'll become a total ladies man and never go pussyless again. There are guys who have had sex on here before that have gone through or are in the middle of serious dry spells. Years long. The feeling of losing your virginity will excite you the first day, maybe even the first week. Until the high comes down and you realize oh ****, I paid for sex. How is it that going to make you feel good about your situation? And furthermore, what if you enjoy it? That's gonna be your thing? Paying for sex? How much money do you have? How long can you keep it up? You think you're gonna have sex just one time with a (I would assume) very attractive woman and then just go about your life? You're gonna want to keep that train going, and the only way you'll be able to do that is if you pay. That's damaging to both your wallet and your self esteem. Focus on working on yourself. So what if you haven't had sex yet. It's not a big deal. Sex is overrated, first of all, and second, no one says you have to lose your virginity by a certain age. Stop flipping yourself out. Pussy is not a big deal.
Author Sun Devil Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 I am improving myself. However, I do not see why I should wait for sex. It is a biological need and I am not getting any younger. I really dont care that I pay for the lose of my virginity. I would rather be a guy who constantly visits hookers than be a 40 year old virgin. I only plan on seeing an escort once every few months. I still will work on myself to get a relationship
AlexDP Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Escorts provide what is required for money. This includes acting like they care for the person paying them. My husband and I make love almost everyday (except when I'm sick; he doesn't tend to get sick very easily). I provide companionship for my husband, I talk with him, cuddle with him, and make life a nice and sensuous experience with him. He doesn't pay me anything. Rather, we are a team and I also provide for him faithfulness, selfless love, and other attributes which he greatly appreciates and reciprocates. I don't pay him anything for making love with me, providing me with companionship, talking with me, cuddling with me, and making life a nice and sensuous experience with me. That's what's nice about being a team... we mutually give and mutually take. You are also incapable of existing without your husband. Every single post you post revolves around you and your husband. It is downright scary to be so tangled up. Even in a marriage people should always remain themselves, rather than become codependent. SunDevil, I don't think seeing escorts is a great idea. Although it definitely does not feel like that for you now, sex really isn't that big of a deal. And it will not magically change your life. In fact, you will feel pretty much the same. I also think you will not be satisfied with yourself the same way you would be when you would have sex with a girl who wanted to have sex with you. After all, being wanted is very good for your self esteem. I fear that sex with escorts is going to hurt you in the long run. 1
EternalInk Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Not sure if anyone has said this yet, but if you do go through with it, make sure you don't become the 'Joe' who got attached.
JamesM Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 It's not improving yourself. Sex is not this magical thing that once you have it you'll become a total ladies man and never go pussyless again. Agree, but going back many years...until you had that first experience, it seems magical. The feeling of losing your virginity will excite you the first day, maybe even the first week. Until the high comes down and you realize oh ****, I paid for sex. Very true. And as happens to many guys who see escorts, you could get addicted to that feeling and want to go back and back. You will spend money to have sex over and over because you love that rush. Then the rush will get less and less and sex will become just sex. When you do finally meet a woman, sex may be boring...especially if she is not as good as the escort. How is it that going to make you feel good about your situation? And furthermore, what if you enjoy it? That's gonna be your thing? Paying for sex? How much money do you have? How long can you keep it up? You think you're gonna have sex just one time with a (I would assume) very attractive woman and then just go about your life? You're gonna want to keep that train going, and the only way you'll be able to do that is if you pay. That's damaging to both your wallet and your self esteem. Yes, it is. I doubt that your self esteem will be greatly damaged, but you could find yourself spending money with no tangible results to show for it. Focus on working on yourself. So what if you haven't had sex yet. It's not a big deal. Sex is overrated, first of all, and second, no one says you have to lose your virginity by a certain age. Stop flipping yourself out. Pussy is not a big deal. While I agree with this advice, the problem is that it comes from the position of having sex. And if I were 30ish and never had sex, then I would go see an escort. THEN I could look at this advice and agree. Fact is...sex can be very wonderful. Watching a woman enjoy the pleasure of your manipulations as she enjoys your "work" is very satisfying. Having said that, it can be very depressing and empty if she simply goes through the motions. Having sex with an escort could be great or it could be empty. While there are risks and possible negatives, I can see how you might strongly consider it for the benefits. Your call...just let us know how you felt after it is over.
udolipixie Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 In my opinion it depends on what this experience is for. If it's sexual experience than go for it. If it's sexual experience intended to learn how to please a gal in my opinion you're far better off learning anatomy, learning to use your hands/mouth s the d*ck is useless, and actually communicating with a gal you plan on having sex with.
BetheButterfly Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 You are also incapable of existing without your husband. Every single post you post revolves around you and your husband. It is downright scary to be so tangled up. Even in a marriage people should always remain themselves, rather than become codependent. Lol. I love my husband and I don't hide it. We have a connection that I am seeing more and more is rare and golden. Haters are gonna hate! As for as existing without my husband, if we were to divorce because we no longer desire to honor our commitment to each other, yes, we can both exist without the other. However, we made the commitment to marry because we want to grow old together. Again, haters are gonna hate. Poor haters. SunDevil, I don't think seeing escorts is a great idea.Agreed. Although it definitely does not feel like that for you now, sex really isn't that big of a deal.Sex is an important part of life for many people. However, self-control is also very valuable, and having sex with a person who loves you and who you love is priceless (though be prepared for haters hating on you for what you have that they don't.) And it will not magically change your life. In fact, you will feel pretty much the same. I also think you will not be satisfied with yourself the same way you would be when you would have sex with a girl who wanted to have sex with you. After all, being wanted is very good for your self esteem. I fear that sex with escorts is going to hurt you in the long run.Agreed with this. 3
Author Sun Devil Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 I will not get attached to an escort. All I want is to experience sex and know what it is like. I also do not want to be a virgin anymore, and since I am having no luck with girls, escorts are the only option I got.
Trixis4kidz Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 You're not going to gain experience with an escort dude. If you really are a virgin and inexperienced, chances are you'll blow your wad, figuratively and literally with an escort and gain no real applicable experience. The only way to get experience is to have relevant experiences, where you can try things and experiment. In the meantime watch some porn for technique and practice control with your hand. You'll be fine. 1
Imported Posted November 28, 2012 Posted November 28, 2012 Maybe get one of these .....it is graphic, even though its on Amazon.com.....so don't click if you don't want a butt showing on your screen. Amazon.com: Sexflesh Sexflesh Sherris Life Size Realistic Ass: Health & Personal Care You can kinda work on the logistics, positioning and movement.
dasein Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Haven't read the whole thread. Inexperienced men going to prostitutes to get sexual experience is a very bad idea. That industry is not just a sex for hire industry, but a con game designed to empty wallets and then bank accounts. Inexperienced men would be very susceptible to that side of prostitution. Don't do it. 1
AD1980 Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 I went just a few days ago and i dont regret it..got to have sex with a beautful women get a sexual release and quenched my high sex drive Since women arent attracted to me and i love sex i really dont have any other option..i dont see the big deal
MrCastle Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 I went just a few days ago and i dont regret it..got to have sex with a beautful women get a sexual release and quenched my high sex drive Since women arent attracted to me and i love sex i really dont have any other option..i dont see the big deal Big deal? You mean besides the fact that you're paying big bucks for non emotional sex with a low quality partner when others around you are having great sex for free? "Since women aren't attracted to me"--There's your problem right there, and part of the bigger picture. If you honestly believe that, then you're gonna spend your life (and your savings) paying for sex and believing that's the only way you get laid. Self fulfilling prophecy.
Trixis4kidz Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 I went just a few days ago and i dont regret it..got to have sex with a beautful women get a sexual release and quenched my high sex drive Since women arent attracted to me and i love sex i really dont have any other option..i dont see the big deal People are off topic as usual. I don't think the morality is the issue. It's whether or not he can gain experience. And the answer is no. A hooker/escort or whatever is there to get paid as fast as possible so she can get on to the next guy. She's not teaching him anything, or showing him what to do. It's get off and get off me.
Failboy Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 I've tried it once and found out that it is nothing for me. She was lovely, smart and beautiful. So no complaints there. I wasn't being cheap either, cost me 150 Euros for 50 minutes together in her hotel room. But I was nervous as hell, sweating to an obnoxious degree and it was a pretty awkward situation overall. Also could barely get hard, even though she was my type physically. At the end I had to jerk off in her mouth, and even that wasn't easy but I did cum finally. Overall far from an experience I'd ever revisit, even if it was free. That is just me though, of course. Could be the time of life for you, as we are different people. I'm just sharing the my experience because I did it for a similiar reason. I wasn't a virgin anymore, but still quite inexperienced for my age. 1
AD1980 Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 Big deal? You mean besides the fact that you're paying big bucks for non emotional sex with a low quality partner when others around you are having great sex for free? "Since women aren't attracted to me"--There's your problem right there, and part of the bigger picture. If you honestly believe that, then you're gonna spend your life (and your savings) paying for sex and believing that's the only way you get laid. Self fulfilling prophecy. Its not what i believe its what ive lived with having 32 years of failure..after awhile you just get tired of the rejection and the cliche fluff people tell you that its gonna happen for you..
AD1980 Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 People are off topic as usual. I don't think the morality is the issue. It's whether or not he can gain experience. And the answer is no. A hooker/escort or whatever is there to get paid as fast as possible so she can get on to the next guy. She's not teaching him anything, or showing him what to do. It's get off and get off me. Its not about teaching as much as him just having been inside if a vagina a few times so maybe he lasts longer then 8 seconds with his first partner
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