Sun Devil Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I am wondering if it would be a good use to get experience by paying escorts. Since I was unsuccessful this semester and still a virgin, would paying escorts be useful or a waste. Don't tell me about keeping virginity for the one since it is not sacred to me
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 If you're looking for nothing but ONS or hook up type of stuff then paying for escorts isn't a bad idea. But, if you're looking for an actual relationship, escorts won't do anything for you towards that goal.
KathyM Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 It's not going to help you in finding a real relationship. It will only give you an hour or less of sexual release with someone who has no feelings or interest in you, and at a hefty price. Save your money, and concentrate on finding a real relationship. 1
suladas Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 If you think sex is the most important part of a relationship you need experience in, you have a lot to learn about relationships. 2
MrCastle Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Pussy is free. You don't pay for something that's free. The only thing getting an escort does is relieves your sexual tension with a vagina as opposed to your hand. But afterwards I'm sure most walk away feeling pathetic they had to pay big bucks for something most people on earth are getting for free, as well as knowing the girl sees you as nothing more than a dollar sign. Sex is totally overrated. People put too much stock in it. Once you actually have sex you're gonna laugh at how much you worried about it. 1
carhill Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 OP, IMO, other than becoming comfortable and at ease with intimate social relations with a woman, presuming repeated contact would effect this, I don't see anything meaningful that an escort could bring to the table. The skills/mindset required to approach women who are otherwise strangers, engage them, pursue them romantically and be a skillful lover with them are achieved by going through the process with another human who otherwise has no prior personal or business relationship with you; a meeting of equal minds and hearts. You won't get that with an escort. That said, a good escort will usually provide a positive social experience and a sexual release and the attendant emotional factors and chemical changes which go with that. So, in that sense, it could be a positive experience. Good luck.
suladas Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Pussy is free. You don't pay for something that's free. The only thing getting an escort does is relieves your sexual tension with a vagina as opposed to your hand. But afterwards I'm sure most walk away feeling pathetic they had to pay big bucks for something most people on earth are getting for free, as well as knowing the girl sees you as nothing more than a dollar sign. Sex is totally overrated. People put too much stock in it. Once you actually have sex you're gonna laugh at how much you worried about it. Ya I don't get it, if you just want sex go message a girl of CL or something. I actually bet if you put a ad up saying you want to loose your V card you'll find women who get off on that. Or even don't tell them if you don't want to, not hard to just get some random hook up, won't be as hot as a escort but IMO it means a lot more that she's not getting anything out of it besides for sex. Ya, sex really isn't that big of a deal. Plus it's not even the best part of a relationship. I've passed up random sex a few times since becoming single again, sex is not all it's cracked up to be. Sure it's awesome if you care about the person, but just a random? No thanks.
Carenth Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Other than sexual release, you will walk away feeling like a chump and probably worse for paying for something that in many cases is highly over rated, no I'm not saying sex is bad it's just people tend to work it up as something much more amazing than it actually is. If you really think sex is the pinnacle of a relationship then you seriously have something to learn. Unless of course you just want sex and not a relationship then that is completely different. Sex != relationship it is a part of it, an important part for many people, it is not the only part of a relationship some would argue not even the most important part of it, including myself.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 To the extent that sex is a mystifying and anxiety producing thing for the OP...that he hasn't had it he should go ahead and have sex with an escort. Save up to pay for the time with a high class escort and take a couple hours work through touching, feeling, making out, talking, foreplay, receiving and giving oral. Use the experience to learn how to please a woman for real. Use the experience to learn how to recieve pleasure from a woman. People who do this and who are licensed therapist exist but there aren't many of them. Sex therapy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Oxy Moronovich Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Finding a good escort is hard. So many experts are scammers that it can be depressing. And many escorts are expensive. You'll pay hundreds of dollars for an hour worth of her time: 30 mins of sex; 30 mins of talking. During that time, you'll definitely not learn how to talk to women better. Escorts are for sex or if you're going to a party and can't find a chick. So you're willing to pay hundreds of dollars for a hot chick to be your "companion". Escorts are not good for learning about how to talk to women. Nor are sex therapists good for advice. Sex therapists will only tell you junk you can read on the internet.
GravityMan Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 OP, there's a lot more to "sexual experience" than merely plowing away inside of her. Many people believe that sex begins before you even enter the bedroom. Escorts will not help you overcome your issues. Improving your personality and self-esteem will. 2
aed Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 I don´t think its smart to go to an escort with the reasons you point out here. It will not help you any futher! Second losing your virginity is very overrated. I know when you become let's say 23 you wanna get it over with. But i would advise you: save the money plan a holliday to a youth vacation place (like Canjun, or Brazil). Have some fun, don't be to picky and see if you can hook up with someone. I don't have anything against men going to prosititute's or women doing it. There are high quality men go to escorts or went to an escort because of the experience. And to be honest there is something hot/horny about them (never done it personaly). When you do it you should do it because you want to, not because you (think) you need to. (I read somewhere that in 1800's 98% of the men living in US slept with a prostitute in his life, at this moment it was around 10%. And in the renaissance it was one of the most high rated professions under females (but i dont think i can back this up with some scientific evidence/research). Also it is happening in al different cultures, religions etc. For example: temple prosititution in ancient Greece, India etc. It happend more in matriarchale based societies then in patriarchal. The rising of Abrahamic religions is one of the main factors for the change of vision about the subject)
truth_seeker Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 I am wondering if it would be a good use to get experience by paying escorts. Since I was unsuccessful this semester and still a virgin, would paying escorts be useful or a waste. Don't tell me about keeping virginity for the one since it is not sacred to me If you need to get laid that bad, then do it. Get it out of your system. Get older women if you do this. They will teach you a thing or two.
BetheButterfly Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 OP, there's a lot more to "sexual experience" than merely plowing away inside of her. Many people believe that sex begins before you even enter the bedroom. Escorts will not help you overcome your issues. Improving your personality and self-esteem will. 100% agreed
BetheButterfly Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 The good escorts will not only provide sex, but will provide companionship. They will stay over the time you paid them for, talk to you, cuddle with you, and make it a nice, slow, sensuous experience for you. Escorts provide what is required for money. This includes acting like they care for the person paying them. My husband and I make love almost everyday (except when I'm sick; he doesn't tend to get sick very easily). I provide companionship for my husband, I talk with him, cuddle with him, and make life a nice and sensuous experience with him. He doesn't pay me anything. Rather, we are a team and I also provide for him faithfulness, selfless love, and other attributes which he greatly appreciates and reciprocates. I don't pay him anything for making love with me, providing me with companionship, talking with me, cuddling with me, and making life a nice and sensuous experience with me. That's what's nice about being a team... we mutually give and mutually take.
JamesM Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 It all depends on what you want to achieve from the experience. A good escort can give you confidence of being with a woman. It will help you overcome that first time with someone. But sex is not like porn. As was said, a good escort will provide more than simply a hole. She will provide an experience. However, a good escort is rare. You will spend a couple hundred dollars for a climax. When it is over, you will have paid for nothing substantial. However, if you have the money, then use it to get over this feeling that sex is some mysterious act. And you can leave her without having a relationship. (Since you want a relationship, I think you will leave feeling empty.) An escort can give you an education on how to treat a woman sexually when you finally get a willing women into bed. However, she (I assume ) cannot help you get a woman into bed. If you think that getting laid by an escort will somehow magically make you attractive to women, then you will be sadly mistaken. In fact, many women will be turned off if they discover that you have been with an escort. They will worry that you caught an STD. They will think that you could do no better. They may leave you. However, that probably isn't a big deal. At your age and if I were you, then I have no doubt that I would visit escorts on a regular basis if I could afford to. Of course, I left out the moral aspect of escorts from this discussion. That would probably change my answer considerably.
AD1980 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 Escorts provide what is required for money. This includes acting like they care for the person paying them. My husband and I make love almost everyday (except when I'm sick; he doesn't tend to get sick very easily). I provide companionship for my husband, I talk with him, cuddle with him, and make life a nice and sensuous experience with him. He doesn't pay me anything. Rather, we are a team and I also provide for him faithfulness, selfless love, and other attributes which he greatly appreciates and reciprocates. I don't pay him anything for making love with me, providing me with companionship, talking with me, cuddling with me, and making life a nice and sensuous experience with me. That's what's nice about being a team... we mutually give and mutually take. That's wonderful but not all of us can get a relationship for whatever reason so why not pay for something we all enjoy if we cant get it for free? Im unattractive to women but have a high sex drive so escorts have helped me out greatly in letting out that sexual frustration
BetheButterfly Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 That's wonderful but not all of us can get a relationship for whatever reason so why not pay for something we all enjoy if we cant get it for free? Im unattractive to women but have a high sex drive so escorts have helped me out greatly in letting out that sexual frustration I know some unattractive men who have married very attractive women. I think one of the reasons is because many women can see past appearance and into the heart of a person. Some men can do that as well, but it seems more men are interested in the physical appearance of the women.
AD1980 Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 I know some unattractive men who have married very attractive women. I think one of the reasons is because many women can see past appearance and into the heart of a person. Some men can do that as well, but it seems more men are interested in the physical appearance of the women. lol that cant be further from the truth looks are just as important to women,if a women isnt attracted to you then you cant get your foot in the door with her
pteromom Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 Depends on what you hope to gain. If you just want to lose your virginity and maybe learn a trick or two for use in future sexual relationships, go for it. If you are hoping it will somehow combat loneliness, then no. I don't see the big deal, as long as you are going into it with realistic expectations.
BetheButterfly Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 lol that cant be further from the truth looks are just as important to women,if a women isnt attracted to you then you cant get your foot in the door with her Women are diverse. Not all women are the same. Go to the mall and watch couples. Go to community centers and watch couples. You will find unattractive men with attractive women if you just look.
pteromom Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 looks are just as important to women,if a women isnt attracted to you then you cant get your foot in the door with her The second part of your comment is true. It's the connection with the first part that isn't necessarily true. Women are attracted to many different attributes, and only some of them are physical. Every woman will have a different list of what she finds attractive. It is true that there are some men who fit into more women's lists than others, but that's life. 1
Author Sun Devil Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 This isn't for loneliness, but to relieve sexual frustration
pteromom Posted November 26, 2012 Posted November 26, 2012 This isn't for loneliness, but to relieve sexual frustration Then sure - try it. What do you have to lose by trying it? Just make sure you wear a condom and be safe. I don't get all the comments about working on your personality. Just because you sleep with an escort doesn't mean you can't also work on yourself at the same time. They aren't mutually exclusive choices. As long as it is just about sex, then I would do it. 2
Author Sun Devil Posted November 26, 2012 Author Posted November 26, 2012 I am improving my personality as well, it is just that I am tired of waiting and rejection
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