Ex wants to see new place (breadcrumbs)

[paras1te]

Short summary of situation.

 

Ex broke up with me (Needed time and space off course).

We where in a relationship for over 4 years.

It was a good break up. But I did a little bit of chasing and letting her know I still wanted her for about two months or so.

 

So thats about 4 to 5 months ago. Kept NC now for about 2 months. (only contact is about financials very aloof)

Saw her at a party also a while ago and afterwards she texted me that night that she had a bad day and hoped I still had a good night even though she might have acted a little strange.

I didn't respond 'cause yeah what should I say.

 

Later we texted about some financials and she asked.

 

"Is it ok if I come over to see your new place sometime ?"

 

I answered that I didn't hear from her for ages and now she wants to come over.

 

She said she didn't because she found it difficult and that I also told her not to contact me. Wished me a good week and was happy to hear from me..

 

So she's not coming at my door crying and begging me back so are these just breadcrumbs ?

ignore ? Or take this opportunity to see where it goes ?

 

Not that I care anymore. I'm just living my life. And I don't want to be her friend.

[moveONorStay]

Maybe 5 months was enough to see that she really values having you in her life. In which case, you need to decide if that's something you want anymore?

 

If you want her back in any way and aren't dating anyone else, what have you got to lose? If you have no interest in any relationship of any kind, be very clear in telling her that.

[NavyAirTraffic]

She might be just testing the waters (other than financials) to see how you feel about seeing her. I wouldn't pour my heart out to someone who's last words were "don't contact me", I'd be more covert. Only immature, stupid, and drunk people blurt out what they are feeling/thinking. Just like MoveOn said, only 1 way to find out..... If you want to find out?