emma93 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 So my ex and I broke up about 4 months ago and I'm still feeling really sad over it. We went out for 2 years. It was a bad breakup and we haven't seen each other or spoken since except for a text here and there usually about getting stuff back. I'm heartbroken obviously because I was so wrapped up in our relationship and honestly saw myself with him forever. We obviously fought and there were trust problems and issues with the fact that he smoked weed all the time and stopped making an effort with us after a year, when he started college. To put it simply I was very naive and couldn't see us breaking up. I'm 19 now. I don't speak to him or anything now and I never even get urges to text or call I'm just so upset over the whole thing and feel like I was totally let down by someone who I thought cared. I don't want to get back together or be anywhere near him even because even hearing about him in anyway makes me feel like I've been punched in the stomach! It's like I'm scared of him? I want absolutely nothing to do with him and would be happy if he moved away. I wish I wasn't like this obviously because I know I probably will see him eventually I just hate feeling so miserable if my friends even mention his name. I've taken him and his friends off of my news feed on Facebook so I don't have to see photos of him or know anything about his life. It might seem drastic but cutting him out completely is the only way I can move on because having anything to do with him makes me so upset and feel terrible. So basically I'm just so sick and tired of feeling like this. I have good days and bad days and I'm keeping busy with friends. I go out and do things all the time since breaking up. I was even with a guy after him, that I brought to my debs ball/senior prom but, as it usually happens, it didn't work out (he said he felt bad on my ex getting involved) and I ended up feeling crap over that too because I started to really like him and it helped me feel better about the situation for a while. I just feel like my ex shouldn't bother me anymore and that I should be over it now :/ I don't want to feel sick whenever I hear something about him and would like to know that I will stop hurting and he won't have this effect on me forever and I'll find someone I'll love more than him... Thanks Emma
movingon12 Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 4 months really isn't that long given that it was a 2 year relationship and a bad break up. I know that doesn't help much, but it's true. You're doing all the right things (blocking on fb is not drastic, is normal and necessary) and I'm sure - in general - you're miles ahead of where you were 4 months ago. In 4 months you'll be miles ahead of where you are now. It's normal to have good days and bad days, but there will gradually be more and more good days between the bad days. You *will* meet someone better, just keep going. Good luck. 1
Sav Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Im around 4-5months into a breakup from a 2.5 year relationship. I do think of her sometimes but trust me, it gets so much better. It's part of the process to miss and whatnot, just stay strong and you will definitely find someone you love again. I too saw myself with her for a lifetime but life doesnt work out the way you want it. So just relax and take whatever that comes at you
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